Caution: Co-workers Ahead

Several years ago, my boss asked me a very thought provoking question. "Why do you think that the people in our department get along so well?" "Because we don't see each other much" was my quick reply. It was not necessarily the one that she was expecting from me. As a student of psychology and sociology, I was expected to extol the virtues of humanistic psychology with all of its inter-personal ramifications. If I remember correctly, her response was "Oh."

Was my answer an over-simplification? Perhaps... but not without merit. It is easier to get along with some people when your paths don't cross often. I've certainly worked with a wide variety of people in many different types of jobs: in schools, tutoring centers, offices, stores, restaurants, hotels, nursing homes, group and private residences. From all of these experiences, I have formed some definite opinions about people and work. They may sound a bit rigid; but, see if you agree.

I have classified people into two groups: the Nice People and the Difficult People. The pleasant co-workers contribute to a good working environment. They have their shortcomings; but, they are usually positive and try to help others. The other group, the difficult ones are...well, you know them as well as I do.

It is with this in mind that I offer my road map for employment. The following pointers will hopefully help you navigate the way. Some of your co-workers will be acquaintances; others will become friends-either at work or outside. Unfortunately, there's that final group which is difficult to be around for a variety of reasons.

While you're meeting your co-workers, you'll be learning about your job. It can be stressful; but, preparation will prove invaluable.

Map It

Starting a new job is like going on a trip. It may be similar to your other travels; yet, it has its own unique qualities. You'll need a map-information. Research the business or company. Ask questions at the interview. A wealth of additional information may also be found on-line.

Begin The Drive

As with traveling, it will take awhile to become acclimated to your new environment. Finding your way around the first few days can be challenging. It takes time. Be patient.

Eventually you'll feel comfortable with your surroundings. Don't forget to ask for directions if you get lost. That especially goes for men.

Meeting People Along The Way

Meeting people on a trip can be nice. It's casual and relaxing. You can exchange small talk about the weather or your drive. Perhaps you'll talk a little about your town or family. Usually, you won't be exchanging life histories. Work is no different. Be congenial with your co-workers; but, don't give out too much personal information. You could be misquoted or the subject of gossip. There is usually one gossip at work. Here's how to deal with him or her.

Flashing Yellow Light: Proceed With Caution

When your co-worker pulls you aside to share some gossip, you can let him or her know that you really don't know anything about the person or subject in question; and, then change the topic. Finding something else that needs to be done is also recommended. You have stopped to talk with this person; but, continue to move on.

Pull Over To Let The Blaring Sirens Pass

Unless you like loud people, who know-it-all, you will want to pull over to let them pass you. When it comes to some topics, they may be great conversationalists. However, if they have all the answers to something, especially work-related, they won't be able to hear you above their noise.

Take A Different Road

If you were driving down a road full of potholes and debris, you would look for an alternative route. The same holds true for the negative co-worker, who complains about almost everything. These people can have a detrimental effect on company morale. Try to steer them into a positive direction or take a different road.

The above people, undoubtedly, have redeeming qualities. With a little patience and understanding, they may come around to be part of the crowd. They are somewhat predictable like all of us. While you may need to occasionally take a detour around them, other times they can be decent company.

The Roadblock

There is one type of person, however, to handle with extreme caution. He or she will regularly find fault with one or two people, or a group. Contrarily, this individual will be very nice and polite to others. It is important to be civil to him or her. After all, you work together and see each other on a regular basis.

This co-worker will try to be a roadblock to some. He or she is in the middle of the road and does not want you to go by. The best thing to do is go around anyways. As hard as it can be, try not to get others involved. This person has friends in the company.

The Green Lights

My final advice is look beyond the red flags and see the green lights. Overall, the good co-workers will outnumber the bad. Get to know them and help them when possible. It will make a great working environment for all.