Changes in the Church and the Feelings of Older People

It's Hard to Be Old!

Dan Reveal
To makes changes in a particular church to make it more modern and appealing to younger people doesn't mean that the basic teachings of the church are put in jeopardy.

Unfortunately, these changes in a church and the feelings of older people, those who might have gone to this same church for many years, are sometimes in conflict.

Resistance to Change and Being Elderly

In general, the resistance of older people to changes in the church can be seen as a reflection of what it means to be elderly in the first place. This is to say that the problems that are associated with being old can overlap into a basic reluctance to accept changes in the church.

Older people view changes in the church from the position of vulnerability. They have too much time on their hands and are sometimes too physically fragile to make the same commitments as before.

Further, if older people have conflicted feelings regarding changes in the church, it's perhaps because they feel just a bit betrayed. After all, these elderly people have invested time to create a certain kind of church and this memory of the traditional church is set in their minds.

If they've contributed so much to establishing a particular church atmosphere, why then is change needed?

Human Relationships

Changes in the church and the feelings of older people are brought into conflict for other reasons.

Simply put, changes in the church magnifies the sense of loss older people feel. It's bad enough that they miss their friends who have died.

Now they are being asked to adjust to more modern music when they prefer the traditional hymns, for example.

Older people might also find it difficult to relate to those younger newcomers whose attitudes may seem more frivolous and non-traditional.

Once again, the basic issue of being old is difficult enough for people to have to deal with.

Now they are expected to welcome changes in the church on behalf of younger men and women with whom the elderly have very little in common.

With this in mind, it's easy to understand why changes in the church and the feelings of older people are often at odds.

The principles of the Bible remain the same, and changes in the church are not meant to put the basic teachings of the church in jeopardy.

And yet, because of the basic vulnerability which is associated with being old, changes in the church too often magnify an already hurtful situation and make older people resistant to change.

Published by Dan Reveal

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  • Lucy M2/25/2011

    This is true. I recently relocated and changed churches. The one I attend now is in a college town and I am the oldest one that attends. They have a great christian rock band which does not appeal to the older residents in the area. They attend once and do not come back, but this is a great way to reach the youth of today and get them involved with the Church.

  • carol gibson2/23/2011

    An older lady waiting for her posies to come up (me) wishes for the old, classic hymns that aren't around much anymore.

  • Danielle Olivia Tefft2/22/2011

    You are so right about this topic, Dan!

  • Sheryl Young2/22/2011

    I think it's a tool being used by the devil...the young people don't want the older stuff, the older people don't want the newer stuff, and it prevents unity of the body. Well, some of it's the devil and some is "I want what I want, never mind what glorifies God"!

  • Delicia Powers2/21/2011

    Very wise Dan, well said!

  • A. Kaelin2/21/2011

    Nice job!

  • Crystal Ray2/21/2011

    I hope I never become so stubborn that I'm not willing to accept change. Life is always changing, and we should keep an open mind no matter our age. Excellent article!

  • Jack Wellman2/21/2011

    I agree with this. We have to change and God is the only One Who said, "I change not!".

  • John Myers2/21/2011

    Excellent observations my friend!

  • Abby Greenhill2/21/2011

    Don't catagorize all old people!

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