Chapter 1: Dont Be Stupid Ladies & Gents in the Game of Dating

Things (Situations) Every Man & Woman Should Avoid in the World of Dating ...

The dating world is pretty intimidating and down right scary, but don't let yourself fall into a bottomless pit of desperation and allow yourself to be taken for a ride and humiliated. Men and women both make horrific mistake or fail to see the warning signs of whether, or not the opposite mate likes you as a friend, sees you as boyfriend/girlfriend potential, or really wants to spend time with you. Now-a-days, you need clear written out instructions that will tell you whether or not he or she sees you as a lifelong partner and if you have potential. It can be down-right impossible sometimes to read the signs.

Don't Be Stupid!

Ladies and gentlemen... I am about to list a chapters filled with scenarios that are based on and from personal experiences, experiences from friends, things that have happened in the media that we all what felt like had front-row-seats and or a bird's eye view. I will also write about scenarios that I've observed are painful mistakes that women, and men have both made when pursuing the opposite sex.

Brace yourself for these stories. Just keep in mind that while you are reading this that no one is perfect... No one at all... not even match makers. WE ARE ALL GUILTY OF AT LEAST DOING ONE OF THESE OR BEING STUPID!!! Some of us just choose not to share that we were or have been stupid at one time or another and take it to our graves with us, unless... we confide in a big mouth friends that has a blabbing problem...

Let's begin the first rule and discussion with work place romances.

Work can either be exciting or down right boring and there's nothing like an in office romance to keep you interested in your job and making you wake up as early as possible to be the first one in, making sure that you're there when that cutie walks in the door and past your office. I hate to admit this, but if a co-worker or officemate is hot enough, they will be the sole reason that you come into work at the crack of dawn, and the fact that the economy sucks and you need a paycheck can actually become your incentive to perform on the job. Let's face it, on the job romances can be downright interesting and juicy and not let's forget against company rules, but we have all broken rules right?

I have a friend that I met in college and maybe this is where her destructive path as a man hunter began, when she first spied a college advisor and decided that she wanted to date him. She is a little adventurous, over bearing, and has it set in her head to snag a man before it's too late, being that she's 29. She also feels pressured to snag a man, being that she has two degrees and is being pressured by her family to catch a man and have a shot-gun wedding.

Let's give this friend the name "Stacy." Stacy is an over assertive man-hunter and her man-hunting mentality began at our university, when she decided that she was in love with a college advisor. Let's give this advisor the name "Michael." Michael was an advisor for the undergraduate department of the Natural and Behavioral Sciences at our university. He was a short, soft-spoken, Indian man that resembled a puppet, and was shy, timid, a walking brain and a part-time math instructor.

Michael was sincere when it came to his job as an advisor and it was clear from his demeanor, that he was strictly about assisting students in selecting the right college route to a career, and taking the right courses for graduation.

Stacy was a regular on Michael's advising office and decided that she was infatuated with him, after he made the mistake of complimenting her on her new hair do. Before Stacy graduated from our university, she had asked me whether or not I thought it would be a good idea to date Michael, being that he was college faculty, and staff. I told her that maybe it would not be a good idea to make any sudden moves, but she was determined and felt that she had a chance with Michael.

Michael had no idea and Stacy waited until she was graduating to approach Michael and tell him that she liked him. Well, after seeking the advice of a friend and sorority sister, Stacy decides to pay Michael a visit to his advising office, after she has graduated.

She makes an appointment with Michael, and little does Michael know that Stacy has made an advisement appointment with him to ask him out. Oh boy was that a bad idea. Stacy walks into Michael's office, makes up an excuse that something is wrong with her transcripts, but quickly switches the topic and reason for her visit, and tells him that she has a crush on him. Stacy also uses this opportunity to ask Michael if he would be interested in going out on a date with her. Michael is caught off guard, takes his glasses off, sputters and then says, "I have a lot of work to do," and then asks Stacy if she needs anything else and tells her that he has an appointment with the next student at 2:30, who is waiting outside his office. At this point, Stacy feels a bit strange and unsettled, being that she had suspected that Michael was a bit attracted to her. Stacy does not give up. Stacy then continues to visit Michael's work place and stops in to say hello. Michael begins to close his office door, and also tells the secretary to tell students and particularly Stacy, that he is out for lunch. It's obvious that he's hiding from her. Stacy did not give up... she just gave him some space... She had to start searching for a job, being that it was now time to move out of the campus dorms and she had to make money... The man-hunting would have to wait, but only for a while...

Stay tuned for the adventures of Stacy the Man-hunter in Chapter two...