Cheaters Never Prosper

When your spouse chooses to cheat and look for sex outside the marriage we as the innocent spouse need to realize that it is not us, and we are decent people. We deserve to be loved totally and completely by a real man or woman and not a louse that cheated on us.

Yet too many of innocent spouses choose to go back to a spouse who has cheated on them in the past and they end up being cheated up again most of the time. One time of cheating, I can see forgiving, but when cheating happens two or three times, as in baseball you are out.

If you accept the apologies your spouse will no doubt give you, this is fine if that spouse only cheated once, but cheaters tend to be repeat offenders. Once they know that an innocent spouse will forgive them for one affair next time they get bored they will cheat again and then expect to be forgiven yet again. When will you as the innocent spouse draw the line with the cheater?

You tend to loose so much personally if you take back a cheating spouse. You loose self-confidence, self-esteem and your dignity among other things. You also learn to accept second best, which is never good, you are the innocent spouse and deserve so much more then you realize. If your best friend went out and found a new best friend, spending all sorts of time with them, would you accept that friend back with out reservation? If you would not allow your friend to get away with it, why let a cheating spouse get away with it? You deserve better and you know this.

If you let a cheater back, into the marriage, you run the risk of them bringing home a sexually transmitted disease and that is not something you deserve. Cheaters tend to cheat for the thrill of it and often do not take the time to use protection.

Building back up the trust that has been crushed when one spouse cheats can be hard if not impossible. We tend to believe our spouses when they appear to be telling the truth, but the facts speak for them selves. If the cheater adamantly refuses they have had an affair, and the situation proves differently, then you should not take them back. Observably they do not know the difference between fiction and non-fiction.