Cheating Husbands: Why Are They Unfaithful?

The first thing I'd like to note is that the subject of this article is intended for spouses, meaning married couples. The reason for this is that sometimes parties in a romantic relationship, no matter how committed they're supposed to be, don't always feel fully committed if they're not married. Sometimes, a person in a relationship will even use the fact that they are not married as an excuse to cheat. Moreover, in other cases, unmarried couples are sometimes excused for their infidelity, or even expected to be unfaithful. Married couples are usually held to a higher standard, as so they should be. Let's move on.

I had a friend years ago that was also a music colleague with whom I played in a band and did a few studio recordings. When I met "Rob" he was in his late 20's and had been married to his wife "Marla" for about 10 years. They had 2 kids; a little girl (8 years old) and a boy (6). Rob and his wife seemed to have an even-flowing relationship; no drastic highs or lows. Financially they were stable, and the kids appeared to be happy.

One day, Rob felt comfortable enough to confide in me that from the day he met Marla he had never gone 3 months without cheating on her. He further stated that he was currently seeing another woman. However, he declared that he was in love with Marla, that his relationship with her was very satisfying in every 'department', and that he could never live without her and his kids. Early in their marriage, Marla did find out about one of his 'flings', but agreed to stay with him when he promised to never be unfaithful again.

Ron stated that he has never stopped fooling around, and never will. He simply felt that he should continue to get better at being deceptive. Rob expressed little remorse for his lifestyle, but rationalized (justified) his actions by saying. "That's just the way men are, and I'm a man. So, as long as there are women who want to play, and I can keep it discreet, I'm going to play".

As horrible as it may sound, most guys I've ever know are similar to Rob, if not worse. So, why do men routinely cheat? The reality for most men is that even if they HAD a reason, a 'naughty by nature' guy doesn't really NEED one. As a man I can truly tell you that with this type of man, he cheats simply because he can. It doesn't matter how beautiful, loving or "satisfying" his wife is. This is why so many spouses are in therapy, especially women, because they've been falsely made to believe they're not "woman enough" to keep their man from fooling around. Sometimes it's not the poor woman's fault at all. Worst than that, some guys believe that simply being born a man allows the privilege to cheat. Strangely, many of these men work hard to provide for their families, and are otherwise loving, supportive husbands. Still, there are always signs of infidelity, some are even as obvious as traffic signals; but only if you really want to see them. In another article, I explain how to easily recognize these signs.