Cheating - What's Love Got to Do with It?

There are many articles written on the subject of cheating. From the cheaters to the cheated on. Here are my views on it.

If you love someone, there is no way you can cheat on that person.
I've been in love and I never even thought about cheating. I can't picture being with someone else in a sexual way with someone other than the person I love. I don't think like "Oh I'd better not cheat because it would hurt her so much if she found out". It's way beyond that. I just don't think about it. If you love someone, I don't see how you can want to be with another person. And if you are that complicated of a personality it's not fair to your partner to be put into that arena.

How can one honestly say "I love you' to someone, and at the same time being in the sack with someone else. Maybe one should say "I lust for you" instead. Not I LOVE you.

How can anyone risk loosing something so easily, if it's something you really care about? That's another look at this farce. If a love or a family is so important, how can you risk doing something that will cost you to loose it? How can you sleep at night knowing you are lying to, and lying next to the one you say you love. That must be tremendous guilt, or maybe not. Maybe one needs to have no conscience to cheat. It means nothing to them so who cares?

I know that things change, and feelings change and people in love can grow apart. If this happens, it needs to be talked about and a solution to the problem must be discussed. This should be done before the cheating act. Maybe the cheating wouldn't happen if a problem were talked about first. But why hurt the one you love by breaking that heart. I think most, if not all people who have been cheated on would have rather been confronted before the affair happened and done something about it rather than finding out later and not knowing that something was wrong.

Maybe if you asked your spouse if you could have sex with another before you did might work too. Just say Honey, it really doesn't mean anything to me, I do really love you. but, I'd like to sleep with ??, just to do it. It's not a love thing ya know? OK? I think I know the answer to that. However, your spouse would be aware of a problem.

Here is a bet I'd like to make. You take anyone who has ever cheated on the one they say they love. Make an offer to them that they will get One Million Dollars if they do these certain things and do not do these certain things. I bet they will follow the rules to a tee. That One Million dollars will mean so much to them, they would not do anything that might cause them to loose that money. They wouldn't think twice. "Oh, that's on the list of things not to do. Well I'm not going to do that or I'm going to loose that One Million Dollars. If someone else is really has your heart, and love it would be even more so.

Here is another way I look at someone cheating. The marriage vows are the most important vows you can make. It is the strongest contractual agreement that can be made. You say "I Do" and "I WilI" etc and you really need to feel that in your heart. You are not only making that commitment to your future spouse, you are making it to a much higher being. If someone can break that vow, by cheating on his or her loved one, I wouldn't trust that person for anything else. I don't care if it's a one-time thing or numerous times. That person is not trust worthy to have any other agreement or contract with.

I would think that if we had an agreement, as soon as something that person thought was better came around, he would jump ASAP over to it, and say the hell with our agreement. I don't care who you are. From celebrities to John Doe. You cheat and you are a proven liar and not trustworthy. In my mind, why would you keep to an agreement or contract with me, if you can't keep it with the person you supposedly love.

If you can cheat and lie to someone you love, why would you not cheat and lie with anyone else?