Children's Misbehavior-The Myth of the Perfect Discipline Strategy for Children

If you're reading this article you are looking for the perfect discipline strategy for parenting and rearing children, and I am here to tell you that this perfect strategy for dealing with our children's misbehavior does not exist in the real world. There may be a better chance of the Tooth Fairy existing then there being a perfect strategy for raising children and successfully dealing with our children's misbehavior as perfect parents. But In this article I will reveal a few reasons children misbehave and what he or she may be craving from us as parents.

If I had my child to raise all over again,

I'd build self-esteem first, and the house later.

I'd finger-paint more, and point the finger less.

I would do less correcting and more connecting.

I'd take my eyes off my watch, and watch with my eyes.

I'd take more hikes and fly more kites.

I'd stop playing serious, and seriously play.

I would run through more fields and gaze at more stars.

I'd do more hugging and less tugging.

~Diane Loomans, from" If I Had My Child To Raise Over Again"

I have two wonderful and amazing sons and they both have different characteristics. Though one may be more challenging than the other, I can tell you the one thing that both of my children are craving is attention and love from their father when they misbehave. Love and attention are some of the ingredients of the perfect strategy for raising children.

When you teach your son, you teach your son's son. ~The Talmud

As we grow older our parenting skills become more polished as we learn more about are children, and how we handle children's misbehavior. I have always heard children are often reflections of his or her parents.

Children are similar to sponges, and they are soaking up the positive and negative energies that we as parents generate towards them. The way react to challenging situations could be the answer to what our children's misbehavior is stemming from.

Your children vividly remember every unkind thing you ever did to them, plus a few you really didn't. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

I have heard that as humans we have a tendency to remember the negative things in life more vividly, and often we bury the good moments in our subconscious. Is it not amazing when our children remind of those times when we did something to wrong them in some way as a parent, and many times these same stories contain half truths.

So is there a perfect parenting manual out there that can give us all the answers, I have to say that I have never viewed this answer book before. But remember this book is an ongoing project personally contained in all of us, and each chapter is filled answers in learning to successfully deal with children's misbehavior.

In conclusion, when our children misbehave he or she is looking for that special attention from us, and the way we handle these situations will be held in the child's mind for the rest of his or her life.