Young ladies, I want you to know that you do NOT encourage one single positive response from men whenever you dress immodestly. If you choose to bring attention to yourself sexually by dressing immodestly, you encourage these 9 negative responses:
1. A denial of your mind. By encouraging men to look at you sexually, you encourage them to not think about the fact that you have a mind. If a man does not care about your mind, he does not care about you.
2. A denial of your value. You are more valuable than your physical appearance. Your value comes ultimately from your Creator (Gen. 1:27). By encouraging men to focus on you sexually, you do not encourage them to value the main elements that make you valuable in God's eyes.
3. A denial of your need for provision. Although we live in a growing egalitarian society, Christian women should want their husbands to be their primary providers (1 Tim. 5:8, Eph. 5:28-29). Whenever you encourage young men to look at you as a sex object, you encourage them to not consider how they can provide for you as faithful Christian husbands.
4. A denial of your need for protection. In the Scriptures, husbands are expected to protect their wives (1 Pet. 3:7). When a man is looking at you sexually, and he is not your husband, he is unconcerned about protecting you. If he was concerned about protecting you, he would desire to protect you before he looked at you sexually. In other words, marriage/protection comes before sex.
5. A denial of your value as God's image-bearer. When you encourage men to view you as a sex object, you encourage them to see you as created in the likeness of something less than the image of God. You might be a little higher than the animals in their eyes.
6. A denial of God's value in creating all elements that you consist of. If you are a professed Christian, then you represent Christ in all that you do, including in how you dress. By portraying yourself as a public object for sexual lust, you encourage young men to value your appearance above everything else about you; thus, you encourage them to only value God's creating ability in your outward appearance. Every element of you was fearfully and wonderfully made (Gen. 1:27, Ps. 139:14).
7. A denial of your humanity. You are more valuable than being viewed as an avenue for sexual lust. If you are stripped of everything except your sexual worth, then you are diminished to the value of slightly above an animal, if that. If you think deeply about this, thousands of women are being sold into the sex trade every year. Their "owners" value them only in a sexual way. Why would you voluntarily encourage men to only value you in a sexual way?
8. A denial of your good works. If you encourage a man to look at your body instead of your good works, you encourage him to selfishly use you instead of enjoying the Lord (1 Tim. 2:10). You should rather encourage a man to enjoy the Lord through enjoying you sexually within marriage; instead of encouraging men to sinfully enjoy you without enjoying the Lord. It is impossible for men to enjoy the Lord by looking at you as a sex object.
9. A hiding of God's glory. When you encourage men to check out your body, you encourage them to look at you sexually, an act that only your husband should participate in. If you are a Christian, your goal should be to encourage others to run to Christ. By encouraging men to look at you sexually, you encourage them to run to sin, instead of communicating by your modesty that your body is not for sexual immorality, but is for the Lord (1 Cor. 6:13). You are not your own, for you were bought with the blood of Christ (1 Cor. 7:23). How you dress either reveals this truth or hides it.
What are your thoughts about this issue? What would you add to or take away from this article?
Published by Jared Moore
My name is Jared Moore. I'm currently the full time pastor of New Salem Baptist Church in Hustonville, KY. I'm married and have 2 children. I love Christ and continually trust in Him alone for my salvation. View profile
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3 Comments
Post a CommentJared, I agree with your article and appreciate your reply to Brandy. I am the Father of six girls (out of 9 kids), and I have found these things are sometimes hard for girls to fully understand. Christian fathers (and mothers), need to keep a diligent eye on their daughters. Thanks again for your article.
Brandy, in this article, I only "blame" women for "encouraging" the things I mention. Men however are still responsible for their own actions regardless how women dress themselves. This article however is about how women should handle themselves, not about how men should handle themselves. This article does "blame" women for how they dress themselves, because they alone are to blame for how they dress themselves. This article was not about how men should handle themselves; or even about how they should react to scantily clad women. I agree that men often view women inappropriately; this is their fault, not the fault of women. My main emphasis however in this article was to encourage women to dress modestly, because when they dress immodestly, they only encourage a negative response. Does this better help you to understand my reasoning? Women are only to blame for how they dress, not for the reaction they receive. Men should be able to exercise self-control regardless how women
I get what you're saying here, but it seems to lay all the blame on women...who wouldn't think that they are valued more for their body than their mind if not for thousands of years of men behaving as though that were the case. It is men who run the sex industry. Sadly, many women don't realize any of this until they've already spent decades thinking that it's acceptable to be constantly scrutinized by men's opinions of them.