Collaring Ceremonies Between Dominants and Submissives

The first time I heard of a collaring ceremony I was quite shocked. Why would anyone want to have a ceremony for a collaring? I struggled with this concept being so new to the scene at that point, but I quickly found out exactly how special this ceremony is. I did not know how special just being collared was, but after I found out, I almost always get emotional at any of these ceremonies. You see a collaring ceremony is in many cases even more binding than a wedding ceremony. The ring is the collar, and there are many articles on this site detailing what that collar means. I wear my collar every day of my life and no one even knows what it means except those who know of our hidden life. I have taken off the wedding rings many more times than the collar has ever been removed in fact.

So the ceremony then, what makes it so special? The couple in question determines the ceremony content. The entry of the BDSM bride is always unique - I have never seen two that were the same. I have seen a girl dressed in a karada or rope dress and nothing else, walking proudly to her dominant with a collar and leash nestled on a pillow she made herself - this would be the equivalent of the pillow used to secure wedding rings. I have also seen a sub being dragged in by the restraints by her sub friend and thrown onto a mattress where the dominant placed his foot on her neck during the entire ceremony until he collared her. I have seen girls crawl in and kneel by the side of the dominant she was to be collared to. I have never had the opportunity to see this between a femdom and a male sub though and would love to. The clothing is optional or the sub is dressed in white transparent gown showing off her charms, and no not all of us are exhibitionists.

The vows are exchanged as in a wedding ceremony, but here the content is completely different. The words obey and honor you are not taken out of the vows, they are central to the promise a sub makes to her dom. This is a giving of her or his ALL in a relationship. Both parties read out the vows and then sometimes there is hand fasting with rope to signify union. Some of these ceremonies are very spiritual indeed. The two people in question sign a contract drawn up by them that defines their relationship and all its boundaries clearly, and will also govern what their roles are and the consequences should these be forgotten or not followed. Copies of these are given to both the parties only after the collar is snapped on and the leash is attached to it.

Most collaring ceremonies I have attended has been part of a bigger community play party and they would normally have first play then. They are also then not responsible for the cost of the party as everyone pays to come to the party except those special guests they personally invited. They don't have to cover the cost of rental of a venue or anything like that - only what each person there for them would have paid for the food and entrance fee.

Contracts signed here are not legally binding. They are as binding to the couple as wedding vows would have been though and some of these couples go on and get married as well in order for their vanilla friends to celebrate their love with them as well.

Not all collaring ceremonies are public though. My own was extremely private with only my dominant and myself present. We exchanged vows and promises and those are written down. We do not have signed contracts, but I hope that one day we will have the ceremony of my dreams where all our kinky friends can celebrate my submission to him. We do have a lovely memory though and we celebrate the day every year along with our wedding anniversary.