Common Causes of Low Sex Drive

A person's sex drive can be as changeable as the weather. One minute it's hot and fiery, the next it's dull and cold. It's perfectly normal to experience these changes, but what is it that makes your libido so temperamental? There are many reasons for your sex drive to diminish, some more common than others. Here are a few of the most well known reasons for loss of libido, and some answers on how to fix them.

Stress

Stress is one of the biggest causes of low sex drive. Think about times you have been stressed and you will probably remember not wanting to do anything, much less have sex. Things such as work issues or unresolved problems within your relationship can easily have an effect on your state of mind and will ultimately put a stop on your desire to get down and dirty.

What's the cure? Finding the root of the stress is the key to getting your love life back on track. Sometimes the solutions are simple, other times they will take longer to resolve. Never underestimate the healing powers of talking things through with your partner because quite often, just sharing the problem makes it a lot easier to handle.

Loss of confidence

For a woman to want sex, she has to feel attractive. However, some days, instead of wanting to get intimate, you want to cover yourself up by wearing thick pajamas and turning off all the lights! We all have our "fat" days, but when you reach the point where you lose all confidence in the way you look, the idea of getting naked is terrifying.

What's the cure? This is a difficult one because there isn't a definite fix that will work for everyone. I used to be far less comfortable with my body than I am now, and there are a few things that helped me get over it. The biggest thing I did was to give myself a stern talking to about how confidence comes from the inside. It sounds like a bit of a cliché, but it really is true. Even if you resemble a supermodel, it won't matter one bit unless you are happy with who you are. If you're really finding it hard to build your confidence, think about the things you are good at and do things which make you feel sexy.

Lack of sleep

It's impossible to get in the mood when you haven't had enough sleep. Lack of sleep can be associated with stress, but there could be many other reasons for it too. Perhaps a new baby, or maybe - like me - you have a boyfriend who snores loudly! Whatever the reason, tiredness and sex don't mix well.

What's the cure? Pretty simple. Get some rest! If a new baby is the problem, you may just have to hang in there until things settle down. Alternatively, ask someone close to you if they want to babysit so you can catch up on some much needed sleep. For any other sleep related issue, have a long soak in a hot bath, read a book and get yourself into a state of relaxation before bed. Unfortunately, those things won't stop a snoring partner, but I find a poke in the ribs works quite well!

Boredom

Has sex become too familiar? Is it always the same, with nothing new and exciting? If so, you might find your sex drive has severely diminished. It happens when couples have been together for a while, but if nothing is done about it, the desire becomes less and less and sometimes stops completely.

What's the cure? Spice it up! You have a real chance, not only to get your sex life back on track, but to get it to brand new heights. Consider investing in a romantic board game or maybe you could take some time to discuss your wildest fantasies. The best thing about it is, even if the fantasies are a little too wild for you to try, just talking about them can be enough of a turn-on to get the sparks flying!