Common Grammar Mistakes Part One: Me, Myself, or I?

Jennifer Walker
Many of us slept or daydreamed through our high school English classes. How could we not? It seems like it was always after lunch, the room was too hot, the teacher was too boring. After all, we never actually need to know this stuff, do we? Wrong! Good grammar is essential to making a good impression, whether you're expressing yourself verbally or in writing. Many companies require a writing sample as part of the interview process, and anyone who wants to make money as a writer must learn how to use English correctly. In many cases, you only have one chance to make a good impression, so wow them with good grammar!

This first article in the series will focus on a common grammar mistake: the misuse of the words "me," "myself," and "I." Somewhere along the way, many people got the impression that we shouldn't use the word "me." It might have had something to do with all the "Spot and I went for a walk" type of exercises. As a result, I often receive emails from my coworkers that say things like, "Please give your requests to Suzie or I..." or "Please give your time sheets to Bob or myself." Both are incorrect, and I'll show you an easy way to know how to construct such sentences correctly.

The word "I" is only used when you are speaking of yourself as the subject of the sentence. In other words, you are the one taking action. "I threw the ball." Where people tend to get confused is when you add another person to the mix. The easiest way to figure out which pronoun to use for yourself is to just take the other person out of the sentence.

Which of these is correct? Remove the other person to see which sounds best.

A. "George and I went to the dance."
B. "George and myself went to the dance."
C. "George and me went to the dance."

The correct answer is A. If you remove George, you now have a choice between "I went to the dance," "Myself went to the dance," or "Me went to the dance." It's easy to see that the first choice is correct.

The pronoun "me" should be used when someone else will perform the action to, or for, you. Which of these is correct?

A. "If you have questions, please call Justin or myself."
B. "If you have questions, please call Justin or me."
C. "If you have questions, please call Justin or I."

In this example, you are asking someone to call you, or perform an action to you. If you forget that rule, just remove Justin from the sentence: "If you have questions, please call me."

The pronoun "myself" should only be used when you are performing the action on yourself. No one else can do anything to yourself!

Here are some examples:

A. "I want to dress myself today"
B. "I'll wash the dishes myself."
C. "I got some ice cream for Greg and myself" (If confused, remove Greg from the sentence and see how it sounds.)

By using this simple technique, you should find it easy to use the correct usage for "me," "myself," and "I." It may sound odd to you at first if you're used to using these words incorrectly, but in time you'll become used to it. Best of luck and happy grammar!

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  • Possession of an item owned by another and me1/10/2011

    If I were to post pictures of my hubby and me, would I title it:
    "Tim's and my wedding"?
    "Tim's and I's wedding"?

  • Monkey11/28/2010

    Thanks! This really helped with a college assignment!

  • marie7/7/2010

    what about "i brought the bag with me"?
    or should that be 'myself'?
    or should you not have either?... "i brought the bag"

  • Rodney6/15/2010

    Chris and Opher, in the third example, she is showing three examples where myself can be correctly used. It is not a "pick one" like the others.

  • Chris6/7/2010

    I'm with Opher on this; it seems that you could use myself correctly in an of the options for your third example. You didn't actually say which is right or wrong. Is one wrong? If so, then which and why?

  • Steve Reynolds4/13/2010

    Thanks for this. I hear constantly on talk shows, and everywhere now that I am looking for it, the use of "myself" where "me" should be used. I first noticed it when someone said at the end of a meeting "If you have any question you can contact myself."

    This sounded so wrong to me that my obsession began. It seems like every guest on a talk show is trained to say "...the award was given to John and myself."

    Then I found myself used this way in I Caludius. I find it hard to believe that this was a mistake and began to wonder if English for the English have a different rule on this.

    It seems that "... you can contact myself." is consitered the formal use but I have been having a hard time finding a difinitive answer.

    Search Google for - ann landers "myself instead of me" - (Include quotes) and you will see that she agrees it is wrong.

    I guess if the common usage has become such that "... you can contact myself." is correct as a "Formal" usage then I should just run wi

  • Kirti3/22/2010

    Its the best post I have ever read :)

  • Fiona Harris10/2/2009

    Great article and one that many writers could use. The 'I' and 'myself' mistakes are one of my pet peeves, perhaps I can refer my co-workers to your article!

  • Carrie Matilda9/10/2009

    well written.

  • Typing for Food3/12/2009

    Thank you for brushing me up on English 101. I did sleep through class. LOL!

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