Communication is the Key to Parenting
The Secret to Parenting is Simple
You need to make communicating with your children a priority. I believe we can find ways to solve problems we felt were once impossible to solve. Even with teenage children we can solve problems by better communication.
How to Communicate Better with Your Children
First you need to evaluate your schedule and were you can start a better communication strategy with your children.
I know that communication with my children is better in the evening then after they get up in the morning. So I changed communicating with my children until the evening meal. We all help to prepare our supper eat together and clean up afterward giving us time to talk and also have some fun.
The point I am trying to make is that we need to strategize when we can communicate better. This is the first step to being close with our children again.
The next step is talk with them not down to them. Start the conversation with something from current events, a fun activity like organized sports or discuss family fun times like game night.
Starting the conversation non-confrontational gets the ball rolling and disarms everyone so that important topics like school, chores or ideas for a birthday gift can be discussed calmly and peacefully, while getting a consensus on an important topic.
Next step is to get everyone's honest opinion so that problems can be worked out. Learn to meet your children half way on items of difference so that they learn negotiating skills.
Parents try to be the final word on everything and that's not right. Try to see their point of view and how they react to your ideas. Children have a clear picture of what can work because they haven't been tainted in real life yet.
You can increase the value of your stock as a loving parenting just by trying to place yourself in their shoes before a final decision is made on the topic at hand. Believe me you will be surprised at the reaction you will get from a child that thinks you are listening and trying to work out a good decision for you both.
Better Communication Means Better Two-Way Conversations
Children that feel comfortable talking with their parents will bring their problems home to discuss, only if you remove the fear of control or judgment on your part. It's important to treat your children as young adults to help them in the maturity process.
Your children will be well liked because they have good communication and social skills, because you are helping them develop without them feeling talked down to or manipulated. In this way they are responding to you in a positive way, which is good for the whole family.
Start Good Conversations with Your Children at a Young Age
It is important if your children are young to start communicating with them on a regular basis. They love to talk with their parents when they are 4 or 5 years old. But the important factor is they think this is normal, which it is, when they grow up to be middle school or high school age.
Sit down today and start a communications strategy with your children. You will be glad you did later in life.
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3 Comments
Post a CommentGreat advice, communication is key to all relationships.
An open form of communication is essential when it comes to parenting.
Knowing something about what you are doing helps communication be more useful :-}