Communication in Labor - The Key to Success and Comfort

The moment that you felt would never get here is drawing near--it's almost time for the baby's arrival. You've been waiting, daydreaming, and trying to visualize what your baby will look like and now it's almost time to meet the little darling. You've likely packed your bag, taken your labor and delivery class, and made all if your arrangements. Have you done the most important thing though--communicated with your doctor?

I will admit that I found in my own experience that a birth plan can tend to go out the window in your labor and delivery. However if you have a list of things you want to be a part of the labor experience, then it's imperative that you communicate those things to your doctor in advance. If you're anything like me, you are part of a practice that has a number of doctors and any one of them can deliver your baby. All the better to make your list of wants, needs, and things that you do not want as part of the experience communicated up front. Some elements may be feasible and some unreasonable if a situation arises, but communication is key.

Here are a couple of recommendations to make your labor and delivery much more comfortable and ultimately successful. Remember, don't be afraid to communicate ahead of time.

*If there are things that you absolutely do not want, make sure your doctor knows these things ahead of time. If you don't want an epidural (God bless you if you can do it, I sure couldn't!) then communicate that to your doctor and his staff ahead of time. If you truly want a natural birth free of any medication, then make sure that the doctor is aware of that.

*If you have any health issues that may be something that the doctor needs to be aware of, then by all means communicate that to them. I for example have a pelvic kidney, it doesn't cause me any problems in my everyday life but when it came to the idea of labor or a possible C-section then it became a very important fact for the doctor to know.

*Ask questions throughout your labor. I know far too many women (myself included) who were so scared and nervous that they didn't ask the questions that were really on their mind. You don't want to be that woman that asks about every little thing, but there's a balance and you deserve to know what's going on with you and your baby. If something is being done or discussed, ask your questions so you're clear on the state of things and next steps.

*Encourage your partner to ask questions and understand exactly what's going on. They're a part of this too and I can assure you that they hate to see you in pain and are worried about the baby as well. Be sure that they feel comfortable communicating with your doctor and understanding the situation and all that's involved.

*If a C-section or other procedure is recommended, be sure you understand why. Ask if there are other alternatives or understand why this path is being recommended. Without an open communication you will be left in the dark and trust me when I tell you it will only add to your worry.

*If you are uncomfortable or feeling sick, tell the staff that. I have a weak stomach and knew that certain medications would make me sick. I will tell you that I wish I would have communicated these things up front and I was freaking out on the OR table telling them in my drug induced state that I didn't want to throw up. Don't do this, don't wait and communicate your needs up front!

Having open communication in your labor and delivery can make the experience a much more enjoyable one for everyone involved. Having open and honest dialogue with your doctor and their staff can make you feel more comfortable and ensure that you can be alert and ready to meet your new baby.

Good luck!