Complicated Relationships: Is It Complicated Because...

You've heard people use the phrase "it's complicated" when referring to their relationship status. Personally, I've had a few relationships that could have fallen neatly into the "it's complicated" category. But in retrospect, things were not that complicated at all.

More often than not, we choose to think things are complicated because the truth is unpalatable; because we refuse to acknowledge that we simply cannot have a relationship with that certain someone; that somehow, no matter how much we may want things to work out, they won't.

"It's complicated." It carries with it a wealth of meaning, of many untold stories... and of impending heartaches.

Why then do we waste time in vague, "complicated" relationships? For a multitude of reasons, really - among them, (sadly) is that because "it's complicated" sounds a whole world better than "single"... or some seems to think.

On the other hand, "it's complicated" can mean you're simply trying to make sense of what you have and are trying to figure out if the relationship is worth saving.

Let's have some fun here.

Is the relationship complicated because...

...you love your partner, but he/she is intimate with others?

...you can't trust your partner and he/she can't trust you?

...the sex is good, you want more; he/she doesn't?

...he/she says they love you but doesn't ever show it.

...you're in an alleged committed relationship but your partner always pulls the disappearing act.

...of the lack of communication between both of you; you really have no idea what's going on.

...you simply don't love him/her, just waiting for the right time to tell them.

...your partner has no direction, no goals, you both aren't in sync; you're hoping someday you both will be.

...you're waiting on him/her to decide what they want?

...the skeletons in the closet have come out?

...there's been too much deceit and you're deciding if the relationship is worth saving.

...you love the person, but aren't sure if he/she is what you really want.

Folks, whatever the scenario may be let me ask you this, are you really happy with your complicated relationship? Because if you are then good luck. I hope it eventually works out for you. Just remember you can't change a person. They'll change only if they really want to. So just how long are you going to standby and wait, and wait, and wait, and wait.

Obviously we don't know the background stories or what led to your relationship being complicated; it could be anything not listed above.

So do you have decision making power or does your partner have it....over you? Are both of you waiting for the other to make a move? Or are you going to wait it out because time allegedly heals all wounds. Yeah right. I would just hate to see weeks, months and possibly years go by and you are in the same position as you're in today.

Think about it.