Confessions of a Lesbian Serial Dater: Gay, Straight, or Taken?

It's an innate art form. It's one of those blessings....or it could be considered a curse. Is gaydar real? If you are gay, do you necessarily have it? In a world where the lesbian crowd is such a mix of femme, butch, etc., how can you tell who is gay, and who isn't?

Don't ask me, I have no idea. Ok, maybe I do...but I certainly haven't mastered the art.

Here's one of the latest scenarios.

One of my really good friends and I decided to grab a quick bite to eat at the local diner. He knows that I'm gay, although we very rarely talk about it. Every now and again he will say "you know, I think you are a great person no matter what." Isn't that special.

Our waitress walked over and I was taken by her smile. She had these cute blonde curls in her hair, and just seemed to glow. Of course, I got nervous. Now I didn't stumble over my order, but I know that my face became red. That's a given.

Each time she would come over to us, I started making small talk-saying something about how well-behaved the kids at the table next to us were, crack a joke about the weekend, or something quirky she did while getting us our silverware. I consistently made her smile when she came over.

Then my friend started to notice something. He gave me that devilish eye.

"What are you thinking?" He said to me slyly with a distinct tone in his voice. "Why am I even asking, I know what you are thinking."

I smiled and looked down into my plate.

"You like her don't you? You don't even know her name! How do you know she is gay?" he said.

"It's simple, I don't know. Yes, you are right; I do think she is cute. She has a great personality - she's very much a people person. I like outgoing people like that."

"But you also think she is cute."

"Hell yeah" I answered him with a smile.

But then it occurred to me. I get all stirred up, try and find my confidence...and then I don't know whether a girl is gay or not. Because I made her laugh so much, made her smile-does that mean she'd like to go out for coffee with me?

How do you guys knows if a girl is a lesbian or not? What are the tactics?