Coping with the Loss of a Beloved Pet

The relationship between pets and their owners is one of the most common bonds experienced. More often than not, a pet becomes more than a familiar wagging tail, or a soft meow, but a friendship. Seeing you through the most trying times in your life, and bringing a smile to your face daily, passing no judgment, but only acceptance.

But are you ready to deal with the loss of your pet? The truth is this. Our pets years are numbered, and eventually, we will be faced with this massive loss. Many adopt animals without considering this trying time that they will eventually have to conquer. You can get through this, but how?

It was a beautiful day, approximately two years ago. My long time companion was outside enjoying the day. Upon returning inside, we noticed a distinct mark on his face. Thinking like most others would, we assumed it was a bite that he had received from another neighborhood cat. Hoping for the best, we treated him and all seemed well. Weeks passed, and we had moved and settled down in a new home in a beautiful country location. To our surprise, Milton's face had become swollen, and we immediately took him to receive veterinary care. Initially, it was thought to be an abscess. After thoroughly examining the area, the veterinarian explained to us that this was not an abscess, but a tumor. My heart immediately broke, and we feared the worst for Milton. The next day, we had a second opinion, and started antibiotics in hopes that it would help. It didn't. I remember going each day examining Milton's face which seemingly was growing smaller. It was just my imagination, my eyes desperately hoping that he was becoming better.

Several weeks passed, and we decided to attempt surgery. That day, we dropped Milton off and returned home. Anxiously, we waited all morning for the phone to ring, desperately hoping that the veterinarian would tell me everything was fine. Instead, the phone rang, and my heart was crushed once again. Milton's tumor was so large that it was impossible to do surgery. There was nothing that could be done, and It was spreading fast. Because he was still himself, the veterinarian recommended we take him home and make his last days special. And so we did. Later in October, Milton passed away. We had him cremated, and so he's still by my side every day. But, How did I deal? How did I survive this massive loss?

Everyone handles this loss differently, but there are key things that will make this an easier transition for you. Understand that you're not alone. Many people have experienced this type of loss. Surround yourself with positive people who understand what you're going through, and share your emotions freely. This is a negative time for you, but don't be afraid to share the positives. Share the beautiful stories of your life with your best friend and companion. Just because they are gone does not mean the memories have to fade as well.

Some find it healing to volunteer with a local animal shelter at this time. There are many animals that need you, and sharing your love with an animal that does not typically receive it is a wonderful thing. Walking a dog, petting a homeless cat, or simply giving a treat can make the world of differences. Know you're making a difference in an animals life.

As time moves on, you will grow stronger and the tears will flow less frequently. In the early stages, this time seems as if it will never come, but It will. I assure you. When it does, you may start feeling ready to adopt a new companion. Some worry as if they are replacing their deceased pet and feel a sense of guilt. Your pet can never be replaced, as there will never be another just like them. Just think of the difference you are making in the pets life that you are adopting. Weeks, months, or even years earlier, not receiving any attention, or any love that you desperately have to give. Although it may not be the same, there is a new bond to share and a new love to experience.

It's now two years later, and while we now have two new pets who have our love, Milton will forever be my "best bud".