Coping, Moving on after Domestic Violence

Domestic violence is an all too often occurrence which is many times not seen or recognized by even the people closest to the situation. When the events do come to light more often than not it comes as a surprising shock to those who were closest to the household. Many times those close to the family that they felt that something wasn't right or they couldn't believe that something like that would happen because it seemed like a fairytale relationship. After a while of either physical or mental abuse it is easy to put on a happy face and play the perfect part to make sure that nothing seems amiss.

It is a hard situation to cope with but gets even more complicated when there are children in the household. The best recommendations for the situation are to seek counseling for not only the victim but also the children in the household.

If the police have gotten involved then a protection order is usually put into place but more often than not it is just a piece of paper. The person who committed the crime more often than not violates it because it is just that it is a piece of paper and is very hard to prove the violations of the orders.

It is very hard many times to prosecute domestic violence cases are very hard to prosecute and win. The victim usually backs down and refuses to testify against the offender whether it is out of fear or just wanting to not deal with the situation and be left alone. If the domestic violence goes to court and is not one there is no protection for the victim more often than not.

The counseling is good for all and the court proceeding is tedious and hard on the victim's. The offender more often than not tries to justify the actions by it being and accident or something that just got out of hand. They are in a state of denial and do not recognize the fact that they need to seek counseling as much as the victim's do. It only takes one time for the domestic violence to occur and one time is too much.

On the extreme side of picking up the pieces and starting over is to relocate and basically disappear if the offender is not honoring the protection order. In cases where children are involved it is sometimes easier to go this route. It does not take long for normalcy and stress relief to return to the victims.

The children involved adjust quickly and only takes a short period of time for them to adjust to a new situation because they recognize the fact that they are safe. At any rate the best way to handle starting over with a domestic violence is to seek counseling to break the cycle and recognize that the victim is not at fault and to get to a safe environment no matter how far you have to go. The most violent acts of domestic violence occurs when the victim attempts to leave. If the victim leaves they need to take the leap of faith and walk away and disappear.