Couple Time After Kids: It is Possible!

Working all day and the rush of picking up kids from daycare and making dinner can make a couple forget that they need to connect with each other. Once kids enter the picture, couple time often flies out the window. However, it is very important that as a couple you don't forget to focus on your marriage. Children are a blessing and become the main focus of the family. At the same time it is important for the whole family that Mom and Dad feel happy and connected to each other . It is easy when you are tired and busy to say tomorrow we will talk, but is not healthy to do that every night. Following are a few ideas of how to regain couple time back after having kids!

1. Plan a certain time each week to be spent as a couple. We all have busy schedules so if you are having trouble fitting in couple time, take out both of your calendars and choose a day each week and commit to making it couple night. If it is on your calendar you are more likely to follow through with it. It also gives you something to look forward to each week.

2. After the kids go to bed, spend time together before going your separate ways. Many couples want to either relax on their own, finish up some work, or clean after the kids go to bed. Take time after the children go to bed and sit down and talk. It does not have to be a long conversation or in depth. Allow your spouse to share about their work day or a funny story they heard. Even if this conversation is only 10 minutes long you will feel reconnected with your spouse.

3. When possible, have a date night. A date does not have to involve leaving the house. Put the children to bed and have a date. Order a pizza and watch a movie. A pizza and movie is a cheap date. You don't have to worry about paying a babysitter and can still enjoy time with each other. If you want to have a date when the kids are awake, that is possible. Throw the kids in a stroller and walk around a local lake or your favorite trail. There will be so much for your children to watch, it will give you time to talk to each other. A date night stand by is board games. Take out your favorite board game and let the competition and laughs begin.

Remember what you loved to do together as a couple before children and try to keep some of those activities in your life after kids. It is possible to have couple time after children. You just have to put the effort into your marriage to make sure it happens.