Creating a Sweet Little Girl

Sweet little girls vs. tough little girl. Little girls are made differently. Some little girls will grow up to be police woman and even soldiers while other little girl's will someday be Mommy's and that will consume their every thought for twenty years as they cares for their children from birth through high school. Some little girl's will be models while others are photographers leaning out of helicopters to get the best aerial view. Some little girl's have a natural tendency to be more aware of their surroundings, they have a built in radar for fun and laughter and others seem to sit and play quietly for hours.

You can develop the feminine side of your daughter and still allow her to be free to achieve all that she can be. I have two daughters just two years apart in age. My first daughter is a girly girl. She wears makeup whenever she is allowed. Paints her nails and walks around in my high heels. Her ambitions at seven years of age are to own a modeling agency.

My second little girl is rough and tumble. She is gorgeous with long hair that I have to constantly brush. She is daily doing flips and is extremely interested in every sport that she sees. Her favorite attire is jeans and a tee shirt. She hollers and cries if I insist that she dress in anything to fancy (she says it itches). She wears skirts because that is the attire that I have trained her to wear when she is going out. But, she is uninterested at almost six years old in make up or nail polish. It is a rare event for her to slow down long enough for extra hair ribbons and besides "they hurt". She is most often outside skateboarding on her brother's skate board or even like now, holding an ant in her hand. How can two little girl's be so different and still be comfortable with their own femininity? Our role as parents, their grandparents, and other close family and friends all are a part of them developing a healthy image of themselves.

1. Tell your little girl how beautiful they are. Femininity is an important aspect of their life. Even if they are a soldier or a police officer they still need to be comfortable as a woman. This begins with those that most love her appreciating the beauty that she does exhibit. The flash of her smile. The long hair. The bright eyes. They are all a part of her. They are all key to who she will be. It is urgent that your little girl love being herself. She should be able to tell you how beautiful she is based off of all the compliments that you pay her on a daily basis.

2. Insist that your little girl develop proper etiquette. No loud burping. No name calling or displaying of tough, mean behavior. Teach her to be brave and gentle to others. This is an important balance. We have all met women who still at 55 have not learned how to have a leadership position and treat others kindly. Its as if they fought the feminine side (the nurturing,loving side of womanhood) and believe that a display of love is a sign of weakness. This is not a healthy woman. A healthy woman can display love and kindness and lead. This is an important aspect to teach your daughter. This lesson is taught daily. Help iron out her tough edges by loving and nurturing her. The kinder you are to her the more quickly she will catch this teaching. Remove her from the influence of tough, hard, bitter adults if at all possible.

3. The love that you have for your little girl should be expressed daily. Do not let a day go by that you do not love on her, kiss her, cuddle her. A sweet little girl will develop as you treat her sweetly, kindly and patiently. Comb her hair for her, help her wash her face, help her choose her clothing. If you assume that now she is five, six or seven and can dress, wash her own face and find her own socks you will find that you are developing a little girl with straggly hair and a dirty face with missing socks. Every little girl need the care of her parents in these delicate areas far after the age that she is able to comb her hair and wash her face. Caring for her patiently will prove to develop a sweet, well cared for, loving little girl.

A loving, sweet little girl will grow to be a compassionate police woman or a powerful business woman with a huge customer base. A woman of confidence and kindness is a rarity but raising one is possible.