Dating 101 : Rules for Dating in 2010

With so many dating rules out there clogging the internet, the bookshelves and our mind, I subscribe to the theory that dating should be fun--so let's keep it simple. Here are 5 rules to follow when you're playing in the game of love.

Dating Rule #5: Figure out why you're dating in the first place. Are you bored? Looking for love? Or maybe you bought a new red dress and just want to take it out for a spin--no matter what the reason, be aware. Knowing why you're out at the bars or searching online dating sites will bring you closer to finding someone who meets your criteria. You'll also be able to hone in on where to look.

Dating Rule #4: Don't reveal too much too soon. Telling someone about your medication history and your 15 years in therapy isn't sexy, unless you're dating your therapist--and if you are, know two things--it's unethical and he probably already knows those things about you. Keep some of your interesting facts for date number 2.

Dating Rule #3: Never talk about your exes on your first date. This will always be taken the wrong way and could be used against you in a court of law. If you say mean and nasty things about him, you will be labeled the bitter hag who isn't mature but if you say you still talk to your ex, he will think you aren't over him and he's not up to a duel.

Dating Rule #2: Take responsibility when you're on a date. We love to show up and expect the other person to "do all the work" when we go out on a date-then you return home, call your friends and say things like, "Oh, he wasn't interesting enough," or "Wow, what a bore!" By placing all the responsibility on the other person and having such a high expectation isn't healthy. No one will ever meet such an "unobtainable goal" which causes you to check out mentally and move on to the next person but you're bound to repeat the same dysfunctional pattern.

Dating Rule #1: Always create an intent for your dates. Make an outline (even if it's in your head) of what you want to accomplish on the date. It's not as bad as it sounds and it doesn't take the romance away--trust me. You want to make a mental list of: having fun, creating an authentic connection, and enjoying yourself.