Dating Advice for Guys: Tips to a Woman's Heart

Some women tend to fall for a man who has the etiquette of a gentleman, and in addition, one who is confident and has the initiative to take the lead occasionally. For example, a man who takes the initiative to open the car door for the lady, a man who is able to make choices (that is, deciding on where to go on a date, or what to eat, as compared to a man who is wishy-washy). No, it's not the Fifties, but it can be impressive when used with common sense. It helps to be (or seem) confident, but... here's where it may get confusing.

A woman may also like a man who seems vulnerable, or sensitive. It's a tightrope on which you have to figure out your balance. Confidence, or endearing vulnerability, which way do you go? It can go both ways. Both sometimes work at the same time!. Of course, you could always choose to just "be yourself".

Ok, so you have managed to ask the woman whom you have been longing to go out with on a date, and you might be wondering what to do. Fear not, this article will cover tips which will help you win your woman's heart.

First Impression

Remember the phrase, "first impression counts"? This is a very critical point to note as it will note the success or failure of your dating. Take for instance, a man who is well-dressed as compared to a shaggier-looking fellow. You might think a well-dressed example is what I'm going to tell you a woman wants, but here we also find confusion.

Some women like the slightly shaggy look (as long as it's not so bad you look homeless). Some women like a nice suit. An in-between look can be ventured to be the safest way to go; it's difficult to go wrong with being well-groomed, wearing nice jeans and a clean shirt. Simple and not tacky or cheesy.

Looking nice not only makes you more attractive to others, but you feel more confident when you know you are looking your best. People react to you differently also which adds to your confidence.

Be Confident...Or not

From the survey results of many a leading woman's magazine, most women rank confidence as the number 1 most attractive trait in a man. That seems to be the way it goes, on both sides, in general. Not always the rule, though. You could always adopt a John Cusack from "Say Anything" thing, and maybe it will work for you. Some women like that too. Like I said earlier, balancing act, or figuring out what your girl likes. Again, there's the wacky idea of trying to be yourself, but then, that's easier said than done for some strange reason.

Watch "The Tao of Steve" for some interesting philosophy on what women like. "I refuse to join any club that would have me as a member" is the basic idea on how a woman treats a man, according to Steve. Not a great way to look at the opposite sex, but it works for some skeazy guys (a club of which I hope you do not want to belong as a member!).

Starting a conversation

Starting a conversation might be daunting but do not underestimate the power of conversation. A date could be fun if both parties are able to communicate so as to know each other better. A disastrous date occurs when where both parties are shy, and look at each other throughout the date without any conversation. Sounds boring, doesn't it?

The man unfortunately has the pressure to take the lead to initiate a conversation. He can break the ice by firstly introducing himself, to let her know about his name, his occupation, his hobbies, etc. and asking her questions (example, her hobbies, her favorite shopping places, movies, or discuss the latest news). By doing so, it serves as a start for conversation to happen. You can always check out a book on how to start a conversation at Amazon.com if this is a weakness for you.

Be a gentleman, show the lady home and thank her for the date!

After a day of outing, always be a gentleman, and show the lady home properly. You'll just have to go with the mood and your gut as far as any goodnight kiss. After which, you may want to drop her a phone call, email, or whatever contact you prefer, to thank her for the date.

This makes a man seem more attractive, as long as it's not overdone, and who knows? You might leave a good impression, and even score points for the next date!