Dating: Chemistry, Pheromes and Kissing on the First Date

Learning how to tell if you are interested in someone is part of the dating game. You meet and you have things in common with a person. But how can you tell if you are really interested? The chemistry is in the kiss and pheromones.

When you go on that first date you should talk and get to know the person. People have always asked me if you should kiss on the first date. My advice is yes. I know it goes against all you feminist protocols but it really is a great determining factor in the chemistry with someone. I will give you a great example.

When I first met the man that I spent 4 plus years with I thought that he was mediocre at best. He was not all that cute and his bank account was well, how to put this delicately? It wasn't good. But he had something that I hadn't counted on. He was compatible with me. How did I know that? I went for it on our first date with a kiss.

Here we were on our date which was going very well. I had already decided that he was going to be a great friend. He and I chatted for an entire day and were really having a great time. Our date was at an end. It was late. I believe it was about 12:30 a.m. at the time. He walked me to my Jeep and we chatted a few more precious minutes. I knew he wanted to kiss me because he asked if I would like him to do so? I said yes with a giggle and he kissed me. I expected it to be a pleasant end to a great date. It was however really magical. I bet he would want to think that its just because he was a brilliant kisser. The truth however is that he and I am chemically compatible. It was out chemistry and pheromones. Now, we aren't talking soul mate here. We are talking attraction.

Time is really important to most of us. If you want to make the most of your time then you have to use your dating hours wisely. You don't want to date someone that you will not work with. So chemistry is extremely important. If a kiss can help you tell that then you should go for it. After all, what do you have to loose? Nothing is the answer to that rhetorical question. Just make sure that you and the the other person have the desire to kiss. It could be the beginning of a beautiful thing.

Now, knowing this fact I have tested many a guy in the compatibility department. It serves me well. I can tell with that little kiss if a man is going to be a person that I could build a life with. If you are set to meet a guy or girl and think that there is a possibility then you should definitely give them a kiss on the first date. Don't just give them a peck on the cheek. Really kiss them. Allow them to really kiss you. If you get a flutter in your belly then you have a hit. That flutter means that their pheromones are speaking to yours. It mean that they are not only someone that you like but they are also sexually compatible with you. Let's face it, that matters a lot in relationships.

Today I am still dating. I broke up with the guy that I dated and lived with for four plus years but I also had some great times with him. We took it to the next level and discovered that although we will always be attracted to one another and potentially love each other that we are not compatible in communication. You have to have all aspects for it to work. If anyone is not happy then you shouldn't try to force it. That never works. If he had tried to put more into the communication factor and allow my comfort level then it would have worked. But, I would never take back any of it because there was no way to tell otherwise. Chemistry, pheromes and kissing on the first date can help you tell if you are interested in someone. The kiss started it all. It was a learning experience. Relationships are all about learning. So go learn tons. You might be surprised what you learn about yourself.