Dating: Clues that Say DON'T Fall in Love with Him

Many a woman has complained that after she got involved with a man he all of a sudden changed. Well, people don't change that quickly. What is happening is he's finally relaxing, and he's not on his best foot forward behavior. So, let's look at some clues to look when you are dating. This could save you a lot of grief down the road.

How Does He Treat The Other Women in His Life?-

Meeting the women in the life of the man your dating can be a big clue to how he will treat you down the road. Is he polite and considerate to his mom and sisters? If he is treating them in a questionable way, you certainly don't want to be treated that way the rest of your life. My former fiancé had a habit of commanding his mother instead of asking nicely, and saying please. I found out down the road why. He was a very self-centered, controlling person. Don't fall in love with someone that doesn't have the utmost respect for you.

He Has a Very Shaky Work History-

If while your dating you're smart enough to ask about his work history and the types of jobs he has done, you'll quickly find out if he is a hard worker bee, or is expecting his honey to do all the work. A past with a lot of job changes may also mean he could have an anger issues. If I heard it once I heard it a million times, my boss was a real jerk so I quit. Yes, sometimes bosses can be jerks, but not all fifty he left in the past year. You really don't want to fall in love with someone that isn't dependable.

Kids Really Irritate Him-

If you don't want to have any kids, this one isn't that big of a deal. However, you certainly don't want to be with someone that is being nasty around the kids of friends and relatives. If you do want kids, it's important, before you fall in love, to see how he reacts around kids. Now, don't base your decision on one time. Make sure he is around kids in several different situations, such as holidays, playgrounds, or when you're babysitting for a friend. Make sure he is capable of being a good parent. Why bother falling in love, getting married, and then having a child, just to learn is the parent form hell.

He Tends To Be Either Possessive, Controlling, or Aggressive-

So, what part of this do I have to explain? I know, so many women see the signs, and still walk against the red light. If he is overly concerned about where you are going or who you have been with, that's called being possessive, not concern. If he makes all the decisions, about everything, including what you do, that's called controlling, not responsible. If he is verbally, mentally, or physically aggressive in the slightest way, that is called abuse, not being assertive. He WILL NOT change. He is not a frog you can turn into a prince, no matter how hard you try. What you see, is what you get!

He Has a Different Lifestyle, Morals, and Values Than You-

Now, we are certainly not looking for clones of ourselves to fall in love with, however, the couples that have the most in common, usually have the best and happiest relationships. If he likes to hang out at bars and drink with his buddies, chances are he will be doing that after you fall in love. If he is an atheist, don't think just because he loves you he's going to church every Sunday. If he believes going to strip clubs is okay for any man, you're probably going to be sitting home alone watching Dancing With The Stars, while he's watching naked dancers in the local strip club. It always amazes me how arrogant some women can be. They really believe because a man loves them that they will change into Prince Charming because the woman they love is just so darn wonderful. Yeah, right! To make it simple, always know, that if he did it before you, he will probably do it after you. Sorry, but you are not that special that he's willing to change who he is, just for you!

There you have it, some important clues to look for WHILE you are dating a man, in order to know whether he is worth falling in love with or not. If you choose to ignore all the clues, don't come crying to me, after all I did try to warn you!