Dating at This Day and Time: The Ugly Truth

Everyone would love to meet that perfect somebody to love, and of course we expect that person to love us in return. We get on singles sites, and call different phone lines, even venture into the occasional blind date hoping that the outcome will be in our favor. As I watch the news I see a lot of fatalities due to dating someone, and the sad part is the person hurt usually has no knowledge they were a threesome.

This is why I try my best to ask all the right questions because people will not volunteer information. You could be dating someone for six months and one day it dawns on you to ask if they are married, and most of the time you will get the answer yes along with an explanation that if you don't ask they don't feel they have to tell. Many people today are in "open relationships". Maybe in some cases it's not such a bad idea. If you are a person who is prone to cheat this is the type of relationship for you. Go ahead and knock yourselves out. Not something I could venture into because I am way too selfish to share.

If you are happily married(so you think) with kids your spouse may be out doing all kinds of unspeakable things with god knows who, and you are none the wiser. The other person knows about you nine times of ten, but usually you'd be the one that would suffer. What really hurts is when the other person is a close friend or relative. For those of you out there who have no problem being the other person, don't be so surprised and hurt when your cheating boyfriend /girlfriend ends up with yet another conquest. Karma is no joke and you're just getting a huge dose of your own medicine.

People will do some outrageous things to let you know they're in the picture: send incriminating photos to your house, call your house or job, sometimes even inflict bodily harm. When dealing with this type of individual the choices are endless. Cheating is never a solution and if you are unhappy do yourself and the person you are in the relationship with a favor just leave. There are way too many consequences when stepping outside of a relationship. I would hope that someone would respect me enough to go their merry way. I don't need anyone crazy coming up to my place of business and I definitely don't want to catch something that I cannot get rid of.

If you are dating someone and they are constantly asking where you are or what you are doing and with who, chances are they are guilty of something themselves(not always the case some people are more insecure than others). Grabbing your phone and going through every single number even at times calling a couple may be a good sign that you need to leave this person alone. When will people learn that you cannot be around someone twenty four seven and monitor every single move they make? In a relationship trust comes first and if you don't have that why bother? Growing old alone is not something any of us want to do, but do you want to spend the rest of your life in misery? In the past I've been known to settle with the wrong types of people. I've never done any type of drug in my whole life nor am I much of a drinker, but I ended up with someone who did both on a daily basis. The relationship was a hard one for me and actually they ended it. At first I was very heartbroken but looking at all the positive things that are going on in my life I realize it was the best thing in the world for me.

This is something that I've wondered about all my life. When you find a number in your significant others pocket, car, etc why do you call and chew that person out? Go have a nice long talk with your significant other and ask all the questions you can think of then rest a few minutes and ask some more. Too many people nowadays tend to settle with anyone who shows them the slightest bit of attention. This is always a mistake because you usually end up with the total opposite of what it is you want. Usually you can pick up on the character of an individual just by finding out what their nick name is. Shooter, Bang, Punisher, Dogg are probably not the people you need to get into a relationship with.

Why do people lie about how they look? If you are constantly talking with someone on the phone eventually the subject of meeting is going to surface, and when you finally meet they never look anything like they described. This is why I don't ask any questions and just wait until I meet the person face to face. The reason why a lot of people are single these days is because they are looking for their own personal trophy to walk around with. Don't get me wrong you want some form of attraction to this person, but whatever happened to personality and the way a person makes you feel? Whenever you meet someone new be sure to meet in a public place and drive yourself. Most importantly don't be so quick to let someone know where you live and work.

Last but not least and this is most important, if you don't take away anything else from this article please take this with you. Raising a hand to hurt you is only the start of an ongoing occurrence, and verbal abuse at times can hit harder than a fist. Please seek help somewhere if you are going through any of this. Friends, family, a hot-line any type of support will be helpful. You don't have to do it alone it's not your fault and you aren't the only person going through it. Good luck and good love!!!!!