Dating Don Juan - Why Some Women Can't Resist These Emotionally Unavailable Lover Boys

My first dealings with the Don Juan type happened while attending college. One of my classmates, who eventually flunked out of college, was a Don Juan extraordinaire! He had women swooning all over him and not just any women, he dated and bedded women who were, educated, married, classy, engaged, corporate honchos and even strippers. You would have thought he was Tom Cruise, Brad Pitt or Tom Brady.

Most of the guys, including me, were awestruck at his prowess with the ladies; so much so that we decided to use him as one of our research projects. We wanted to answer the question, "How are guys like him able to seduce so many women?" It was like he had them in a trance or a spell. They would do anything for him; pay his bills, buy him clothes, jewelry, plane tickets, you name it!

What shocked us were the number of married women who literally became putty in his hands. Over an eight-week period, Don Juan shared some of his most intimate secrets why women couldn't resist guys like him. We broke them down into what we call the, "Dating Don Juan Tips"

Dating Don Juan Tip #1 Be Adept at Reading Women
One of the most important steps in becoming a PUA, Pick Up Artist, is learning to read a woman like a book. All women have needs and even if they are in a relationship or marriage, chances are those needs are not being met. Your job is to quickly identify that need or needs and use it or them to your advantage.

Dating Don Juan Tip #3 Be Adept at Being What They Want
In our society women dream of having a certain type of man; most of the time, NO MAN can ever live up to their lofty expectations. They whip out a list of all the qualities they want their man to have. He must be a sharp dresser. He must like the opera. He must enjoy going to the museum. He must know how to hold a conversation with politicians, corporate executives, pro athletes and rappers. He must have six-pack abs and love to work out but not be conceited. He must know how to cook, love children and know how to dance.

C'mon, what guy can measure up to all of those qualifications? NOT ONE! Including me. BUT, I give the perception that I'm all they want and need and that's what snags them. If she likes listening to Bach Concerto 5, then I love listening to it. Truth is, I think that type of music stinks to high heaven, but to snag her, I transform myself into liking what she likes and loving what she loves.

Dating Don Juan Tip #3 Be Adept at Getting Women to Fall in Love With You
This is a rather simple move; the trick is to fall in love with them first! Virtually every woman dreams of falling in love and being swept off their feet. They fantasize about experiencing raw unbridled animal attraction and having the type of man that is smitten over their beauty. You start the, "I've fallen in love with you" process the very first moment your eyes make contact with a woman. Deep down inside, this is what they want! They want to fall in love at first sight and waltz off into the wild blue yonder.

Dating Don Juan Tip #4 Be Adept at Appearing To Meet Their Every Need
Actually, you won't be meeting their every need; that's impossible! The trick is to give the perception that you are. Once a woman believes you can meet her every need, you've got her wrapped around you finger. At that point, she'll do almost anything you ask of her.

Dating Don Juan Tip #5 Be Adept at Focusing All of Your Attention On Her
You must make each woman seem like she's the centerpiece of your life; that every waking moment is spent thinking about her, being with her and doing things with her and for her. You give the appearance as though she is your reason for living. As you shower her with this attention, she will melt in your arms.

The Reality of Dating Don Juan Is This; He's a Jerk!
After Don Juan shared his most prized secrets, it became apparent to us that he was undeniably a sociopath. He kept using phrases like. "Give the appearance and lead them to believe." I'll never forget the night one of his ladies, (who was seven months pregnant with his child) came crying to us trying to figure out what was going with her fiance. We had to break the bad news to her; that her thing with Don Juan was only a conquest to him and nothing more.

She didn't believe us at first as she talked about their seemingly perfect relationship but at some point she realized he had played her. It was probably when we showed her his other BlackBerry. He had all of his lady friends programmed into his BlackBerry and she noticed that he called all of them the same cute little names and sent them all the same poetry and photos of himself. The next time you meet the perfect man, make sure he's not a Don Juan! The first tell tale sign is that "we" men are never perfect!