Dating Your Friend's Crush

You've seen it happening from personal experience. Dating your friend's crush may get you in great trouble. Although we experience immense sexual deliberation and we trade off our values for sexual intercourse, still there are some inherently strong values such as friendship and respect, which are fundamentally opposed to any form of negotiation. Feelings are feelings and having that crush on your friend's crush is something you didn't choose in the first place. Love comes naturally and we don't really choose for whom we are falling. But, you could have controlled it.

You had a very intimate, sweet relationship with your best friend. You were talking for hours about that girl and he was so clear to you, so open about his feelings about her. He was a calm guy, rather laid back, not too loud or impressive, but he had his charms. You were the type of guy, who would never be unnoticed, always a cheerful teaser, pretty much the centre of attention.

When you met your best friend's crush, it didn't take you long to decide you would go for her. It was easy to attract her, not only physically, but mostly with your humorous smartness and fluent openness. You dated her and you slept with her and no harm done. When he found out, you accused him for being slow and not taking his chances with her before you. You, pretty much, explained your filthy attitude by projecting your fault on your friend's dating style. You called him a retard. You were so cruel on him. You didn't really care if you would lose your best friend as long as you could get what you wanted. No remorse, no regrets, no feelings of modesty for being so arrogant and manipulative. You even bragged for getting your friend's crush.

You were not stupid at all. You knew where the limits were and you were always one step behind. You had that well-structured façade, your open, friendly, playful character, anchored with sharp mindset and extreme intuition. No doubt you were sneaky and manipulative. No doubt you had hurt your friend. Whatever your strategy was, you know you were not a descent person. You said that people are free to do whatever they like. It was your life, your crush, your need to be with that girl. You were free to date whomever you liked. You asserted there is a time and place for everything, for friends, love, work, relationships. Your friend should have learned how to establish boundaries for himself so that he wouldn't get hurt. It was not only your fault for dating your friend's crush. It was also the crush's fault for dating you.

You never got in contact with your best friend again. He never got over your betrayal. Over time, you understood that friendship is the epitome of human contact and relationship. But you chose to mess up things. You never asked yourself how you would feel in a similar position, how you would react knowing that your best friend, to whom you have confided your crush, dates her and gets involved with her, ignoring your feelings and pain. It really sounds filthy, man. And it really is.