Dating the Nigerian Way

You want to date a Nigerian? Dating the Nigerian way is quite different from the American and European ways of getting to know the opposite sex. Here are some points to enable you understand the dating rules in Nigeria.

No Flowers Please!

If you don't want your gift of flowers to end up in the bin, take my advice, don't buy a Nigerian girl flowers! Unless of course she grew up in the western world or she is one of the very few Nigerian girls who have had the opportunity to travel far and wide. A gift of jeweleries, clothing items, chocolates etc will do just fine.

Don't Count On Sex On The First Date!

Most Nigerian girls will NEVER sleep with a guy on the first date because she does not want to be perceived as an "ashewo" (prostitute). A typical Nigerian girl will have sex with you depending on her upbringing, for example

1) If she is a committed church goer, she will wait for about a month before she sleeps with you

2) If she is quite open-minded, you can count on sex on the first or second date

3) If she is a born-again Christian, don't count on it!

Be Prepared To Spend

A typical Nigerian girl will be damned if she puts out and you do not reciprocate by constantly buying her stuff or giving her money to go shopping, getting her hair made, feeding allowance, et cetera (this is a common act among students and unemployed graduates).

A friend of mine made this statement sometime ago, "can you imagine that the idiot suggested we go to a nearby hotel, so that he could have sex with me but I noticed that he didn't have much money on him, I know this because I checked his wallet myself. He wants me to sleep with him for nothing! What does he take me for? "

You see, A Nigerian girl loves to brag to her friends about what her man bought for her, especially if the gift is an expensive one. She wants her man to be the yard-stick that other girls measure their boyfriend(s) with.

If a Nigerian girl sticks with you without any financial incentive, she is only doing so for these reasons,

1) The sex is good

2) She is hoping you will marry her in the near future and you might not want to part ways with someone who stuck with you during your trying times (smart move, huh?).

3) If she is desperate! Her biological clock is ticking so fast, her friends and neighbours can hear it a couple of miles away!

4) She is a born-again Christian or a strict Muslim and having sex with you at all is considered a sinful act.

Breaking Up

Don't even think about breaking up with a Nigerian girl without having the perfect excuse. Some girls from certain parts of Nigeria are notorious for hurting men who have broken their hearts in ways that are better imagined.

There are stories of men who have been laced with charms that rendered them impotent, financially challenged, physically and mentally challenged and the list goes on.

You could use these excuses (It worked for a couple of my friends);

1) We are from different tribes and there is a family curse that will affect you if you and I get married (she will run so fast, your head will spin)

2) I do not plan on getting married now, but if you can stick around for a couple of years, I'll marry you then. (She will break up with you, guaranteed!)

I think it is only fair to treat people the way you want to be treated, If you choose the right girl, she'll love you no matter the size of your wallet.