Dating & Relationship: Gender Roles

When it comes to dating and relationship for women they often make modern day mistakes. While gender roles have changed a bit there is still something to be said for allowing the man to feel like a man by taking the lead a bit. Here is a look at how to let the man do that and keep showing you the interest that you deserve.

Gender roles have always been an issue to most women. They want to be modern and take the lead to feel in control of their own life. You can still do that and enjoy the older idea of letting the man take the lead in showing interest in you. In fact, the best feeling of being in control is when your man is powerless to resist your company. Play with that idea a wee bit and see how hot the relationship becomes.

The fact is that men like to chase. If you fail to allow your guy to do that then you are missing out on the fun of the courtship and the interest that makes you feel good. What's more, the man may not feel like a man anymore and loose interest in the relationship completely.

Let me give you an example:

One male friend of mine has had a thing for one woman for years. I have told him over and again that he should be bold enough to make a move. He insists on remaining quiet and enjoying the lure of "the chase". I have told him that "the chase" can only happen if he actually chases her but it got me to thinking about the male perspective. My belief is that many men today are missing out on the chase game. There is something to be said for playing "hard to get". It's rather like that gift that you wanted on your birthday that was largely appealing until you actually received it. The build up was pleasuring. Dating is about pleasure when you are seeking a relationship that will last. Romance is largely about the mind. So keep that in mind before you poo-poo the idea of letting your man take the lead in the chase.

Another aspect to consider ladies is the "it factor". Do you have "it" for him? Does your man have "it" for you? The "it" factor is that lure of sexual desire which causes you to long for the physical interaction of your partner or date. The relationship has to have that in order to remain hot. This chase game can even begin after you have long been a part of one anothers' life. One sure way to tell if he has "it" for you is to pull back a bit and see what happens. It is a dance so make sure to not neglect him but try to play "hard to get" a bit so he can enjoy chasing you. See what type of fun ensues. Ultimately if your man doesn't have enough self confidence to do this then you probably won't want a relationship with him anyway. Let's face it, a woman likes to feel valued. If he is taking you for granted then what value do you really have to him? Test it and find out. You are the judge here so only do what is comfortable for you and your man. Personally, I have used this as a test successfully. It works.

So before you call that guy that you like think about how to catch his attention without making the first move. Here are some questions to ask yourself as you watch his behavior when you are physically with him. Does he follow you with his eyes when you are in a group of other women? If he is looking around the room or worse talking about other women and ignoring your eye contact then drop him like a hot potato and move on. He is never going to give you the attention that you deserve. You don't want to be with a guy that uses you. You need to be with a man that longs for you and chases after you. It's a balancing of give and take with relationships that your man wants you to give him. So give him that and see how he reacts. I promise you ladies you will get your answers about your relationships that way.