Dating & Relationships: Clues to What He's REALLY Saying

My motto is "Say What You Mean, and Mean What You Say", however that may not also be true in what a man is telling you. Let's explore some of the more common things a man may be telling you, and what they REALLY do mean.

I Am REALLY CLOSE To My Mother-

Can you hear it, he's screaming "Mama's Boy". As a male is growing up he is supposed to slowly detach from his mother. This is a healthy detachment so someday he may become attached to the woman in his life. There is nothing wrong with a man deeply loving his mother, and believing she is a wonderful woman. However to be "CLOSE" to his mother is an unhealthy attachment. If you end up marrying this man I guarantee you will be suffering with a meddling mother-in-law the rest of your life. As well, his mother's opinion will probably always be more important than your own. I say let him be "CLOSE" to his Mom, and you be close to the exit door!

My Buddies And I Do "EVERYHTING TOGETHER"-

Okay, so what part of everything together are you missing? I know, after you marry him things will change. Yes they will, you'll be there constantly trying to get him to be alone with you. Most men who are buddy oriented DO NOT change after you are in a relationship or married. You WILL be spending all your time chasing after him, trying to throw his buddies out of your house (good luck) and constantly fighting. You WILL be miserable. I say let this one go and play, and you look for that loner who's looking for you!

I "DEEPLY CARE" For You-

Wait a minute while I stop laughing. Okay, last I heard when you "DEEPLY" care for someone, they usually call it love. This guy is definitely trying to tell you, while I really care for you, I doubt I could ever really commit to loving you. HELLO, any guy that's afraid to use the L word is a lost cause. He's probably just sticking around to get the goodies until you figure it out. I say, let him go "DEEPLY" jump in the ocean, and you find someone that will shower you with "LOVE".

I Like "OTHER PEOPLE'S KIDS"-

Isn't that special! If your looking to have a family, and I wouldn't hang onto this one. What he's saying here is, kids are nice form a distant, without the mess, and responsibility. I don't know about you but I would want a guy that loves kids, and wants to be a father. This guy is clearly telling you he's not father material. So, If you want to stay with this guy you may need to find out where the nearest sperm bank is. He's not likely to be making any deposits in the near future. Finding a man that can be a good father (if you want kids) is as important as finding a man to be your soul mate for life!

I'm Not Money Oriented, I just Like "GETTING BY"-

Honey what he is telling you is he doesn't like to work. Guess who will be supporting the two of you for the rest of your life? Not him! There's a difference between wanting to live life simply, and not wanting to work. If you're looking for security and stability, and maybe a nest egg, forget it. He's telling you, I'll work when I have too, but I really have no ambitions for the future. I say, steer him in the direction of the nearest unemployment line and let him "GET BY" on his own!

Well, there you have it, some of the more common things men say that may not be understood by the typical female. My advice is, always listen between the lines, and "ALWAYS" believe what your gut is telling you!