Dating and Relationships: Fight Your Own Battle

Husband and wife is one relationship where you should not let the third person in. You should sort out your own problems. According to me fight between husband and wife is something like a cat fight, it can happen everyday. It happens in almost every family. If you guys say that you don't fight then you are not a perfect couple, keeping aside the fact that anyway that is not the truth.

Just like how fight is common, getting back to normal should also be common. When you guys fight, see to it that you don't cross the limit. One or the other should learn to give up for a relationship to last longer. Especially when it comes to husband and wife relationship, there should not be any ego. There is nothing wrong in you being the first person to apologize to your partner. Even if it is not your fault.

Never bring a third person between husband and wife, not even your parents or in laws. Try as much as possible to fight your own battle. When your partner is very angry and shouting, try not to argue at that point of time, even if your partner is wrong. If you argue at that minute it will only add oil to the burning fire. This is a point where ego clashes and your partner will not be able to understand what you are trying to say. So if you try to defend yourself at that minute it is going to be useless, and will also get blown out of proportion. So wait, let your partner shout at you, just keep quiet, as silence is the best way to tackle problems like this.

Being silent does not mean that you are bound to or accept what ever your partner says. So don't worry about that. Just give some time, when your partner goes back to normal discuss the issue with him. Explain your situation or views to him. Now he will be in a position to understand what you are saying. He will not only understand whose mistake it was, but he will not shout or get angry unnecessarily without analyzing things in the future.

Just in case if you also start arguing, then fight, if you tell what happened to a third person, they will give their own opinion, which may or may not solve your problem. And your partner may not like another person coming and advising him or putting their nose in the matter, which will make situations worse.

So you need to tackle your problems in a very smooth way. There should not be any ego within husband and wife relationship. Sit and talk out your own issue. Lead a very happy life.