Dating and the Single Mom

It is said that raising children is hard but very rewarding. Raising a child alone is the hardest yet most rewarding thing in the world. At least one parent had the sense enough to say "I made this baby and I am gone to be there for him/her." It is better for a child to have all the love in the world from one parent than to have two loveless parents.

I am a single mother. The father of my son has not been involved since day one. My little boy is six years old now. We do everything together and I will tell you that he is my best friend.

A single mother in the dating scene is very challenging. Many men get the impression that what you are looking for is a "rent a dad." Which I find to be offensive. I have been raising my son alone for six years now, why would I want a man to step in now. Also when you start dating, a new boyfriend wants all of your time, which cannot happen when your a single mom. Plans are never etched in stone, they may have to be changed or canceled at a moments notice.

Single men always say they want the mature woman and that they can never find one. Well you can't get a more mature woman than a single mom. She has had to do everything herself. You will not find a more self relient, independent person than a single parent. But our kid(s) scare you away. As if the word "single mom" is a disease. But let me tell you this single parents do not cheat or play games. We simply do not have the time or the energy. I became pregnant at the age of eight-teen. The father was around the same age as me. With him not around I had to do the growing up for the both of us.

If you are dating a single parent let me say this: do not get annoyed with us if all we do is talk about our kid(s). You have to remember that all our spare time is devoted to our kids. We do not get to go out with friends on a weekly basis, or attend sporting events etc. . . Our conversation is usually limited to our kids. And besides we are proud of our kid(s). we love to talk about them! It's the best conversation in our opinions. So it will earn you brownie points if you actually ask about the child when we are talking.

Do not say anything bad about any kid if your dating a single parent. We find it highly offensive. Even if it's not our kid your talking about. Remember we do not have to be with you. We choose to be with you. Our kids are forever and you could be gone any second.