Dating Sites Are Not Always What They Seem to Be and Match.Com Is No Exception

I dated a lot. I met some very nice men. I also met some not so very nice men and two who wanted to move in with me because they could not afford to pay their rent. Some drove an hour or more to meet me, take me to dinner and to find out if we had a future together.

One came from Scotland, a nice enough man, and celebrated a Mother's Day with me and my family. We had planned on my going back to visit him in a few weeks or months and I even got my Passport to get ready to make the flight. Just my luck! He left and the very next day, New York City was bombed - it was 911 - and I never went.

I continued to meet some very nice men on a dating site and some who were also not so nice. I must say that there might have been a match or two, and once I even was presented with a 2 carat engagement ring.

It ended. I broke it up and returned the ring and other things that he bought. I stopped visiting any of the dating sites, and instead got involved with my writing sites and content to remain alone for the rest of my life. It did not seem too bad for me because I never wanted to share the remote control of my brand new wide screen TV.

Time passed, as time usually does. A week or so ago I got the feeling that someone out there was alone and lonely and wanted find a match. So I signed up for the dating site- just one more time - after all it was years since I had belonged to any of the sites that told me I could meet a match.

I answered all the questions that they asked on the dating site. I checked out all of the interests that I looked for in a man. I left out a few that asked how much money I made, and lied a little bit when they asked me my age. I sent them a recent picture of myself. I took a very big chance because I was going to use a photo that had been recent - ten or more years ago.

Then I had to go to fill out yet another page. The last one and the one that asked me what type of membership I wanted. Each had another amount of money that I had to pay for me to meet a man who would be the perfect match for me.

I decided then and there that I would not be the one to pay but instead it would be the man who wanted to meet me. So I closed down the page and went on my way. I was very much surprised to find an email from the dating site site on the very next day.

It seems that there were two, no- maybe four eligible men who lived in my area who might be a match. I checked off one who was only wanting to play and another other who was married but wanted to date.

Then I noticed one or two who lived very near to me and it spiked my interest so sent them a hug. Sending a hug is the sign that the man gets to know that I saw his picture and was very interested.

The next few days I was sent the pictures from the dating site of more men who lived in near to me and their profile looked pretty good. More hugs I sent, but there was one I wanted to email. That's when I learned that to send an email, I had to pay!

So I did some quick figuring and this is what I came up with.

If I am not a paid member and send out an email message, the man will not receive it - for for me to contact a man I would have to pay.

If the man sent me an email or even a 'hug '-I would not receive it unless I paid.

Instead, I would get a message from Match.Com, tell me about all the men that were interested in meeting me . They also would tell me I would have to be a paid member to connect with them.

SO ....I quickly figured out that If the man wanted to send me email I could not get it...

If I sent email to the man on the dating site he could not get it.

The only way that he and I could connect would be IF each of us became members and what is the chance of that happening? Not much!!

So I sent the dating site a message to cancel my membership. I also requested that they remove my picture as well. I feel sorry for the man who fell instantly in love, with my personal data and my picture, because we will never meet.

This is the trick of the dating sites - they have to get you to join - and then who knows if the other person is for real?

I will never really know because my Match.Com trial membership has now been removed.