Dating While Separated

Marriage can be tough. Sadly, more than not, they end in divorce. If you're separated from your spouse and your thinking about dating, let me point you out to somethings to think about.

Why Are You Dating?

Because you CAN? In the words of Col Sherman Potter from the TV show M*A*S*H, "Horse Hockey! Could it be that you just need someone to make you feel loved and desired? I'm speaking to men AND women here. The feeling that we get when someone wants us, is great. It may have been a while since we felt that with out spouse. There's nothing wrong with having that feeling but keep your head.

What Are You Looking For?

Are you looking for just sex with a warm body? If that's the case, MAKE SURE YOU USE PROTECTION. Are you looking for a replacement wife or husband? That's a huge mistake and can leave an innocent person hurt.

Are You Sure It's Over?

Back years ago, my first wife said it was over. She wanted a divorce. She told me she didn't love me anymore and that it was too far gone to get back. I moped around for about two weeks feeling sorry for myself and then I got myself a girlfriend. I had no idea that my wife at the time was seriously considering a reconciliation. I wanted her back. I really did but the REAL damage was when I moved on so quick. I messed things up by dating too soon. She turned and never looked back after that.

Be Honest

If you are dating, be honest with your new man or woman. Let them know that you are STILL MARRIED but separated. If a divorce is pending, tell them that it is but don't tell them that unless it IS in fact pending.

Don't Jump Into Bed So Quick

This is to the woman AND the man. Weather you choose to admit it or not, you're very vulnerable right now. Sex will just complicate things. Wait and be sure on where the relationship is going before you have sex with your date.

Don't Get Into Another Serious Relationship Right Away

Many make this mistake and it almost always leads to doom with a new relationship. You need time to heal. You need time to get to know yourself again. Take that time for yourself and take care of YOU.

I'll end this by saying that the end of a marriage is a very difficult thing. There's nothing wrong with dating during a separation but keep you emotions under control, be honest, and think with your head and not your heart. Good luck.