Dealing with Office Bullies
Types of Office Bullies
The office bully can take many forms. He may be polite to others but rude when he speaks to you. The bullying could come in the form of ignoring you. The bully could be a social butterfly who thinks you are plain as mud. Several different types of bullies exist including the aggressive bully, the know-it-all bully and the better-than-you bully.
The Aggressive Bully
The aggressive bully loves to single you out. He will seize every opportunity to confront you and say something to make you feel uncomfortable. This person seems to get pleasure out of watching you squirm and fumble for the right words to say. For this person, annoying you is entertainment.
The Know-it-all Bully
This is one of the most annoying bullies of all! No matter what subject comes up, she will know more about it than you do. She interrupts your conversations, inserting her own words of wisdom. She competes with you on top assignments, always making sure to point out all your flaws. She carefully records each error you make for future reference!
The Better-than-you Bully
The better-than-you bully snubs his nose at you every chance he gets! He has more money than you have, wears better close than you wear wear and travels in better style than you travel. He bullies you by flaunting his success to make you feel inferior. Do not be surprised if you say hello and he happens to turn his head as if not to hear. He has no time for the likes of you!
Dealing With the Office Bully
Rather than cringing every time you encounter this person, it is high time you learn to deal with your bully! The first step in learning to deal with a bully is understanding what a bully really is. A bully is an insecure person who makes herself feel better by belittling other people. It is as simple as that. What you have to do is take the power away!
You take away a bully's power by not responding. If he gets no response from you, it is no longer fun to pick on you. He will look for another target. If everyone starts ignoring the bully, he will eventually run out of targets and your worries will be over!
If the situation becomes too intense and turns into a confrontation, do not lose your temper. If you lose your temper, she has won. Serious conflicts may require you to sit down with your boss and discuss the situation. Tell your boss how uncomfortable this person is making you feel. No one should have to feel uncomfortable at work and it is your boss' responsibility to handle the situation.
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12 Comments
Post a CommentI agree about bullies being cowards, well written article on dealing with these people.
I totally agree.........bullies are cowards. Great article and advice.
Fantastic!!!!!!!!!!
I agree that bullies are cowards. Being in a small office space with a mean-acting person is one of the things I'm trying to avoid by writing for AC. Who wants to be unhappy? I appreciate your ideas on dealing with office bullies.
Nice job. I follow in line with Justice Lives Not, Bullies are cowards.
Good read, Janet. I hate the "Know It All" bullies!
Excellent article. We agree on the main point for sure: Bullies are COWARDS - That's why they look for wimpy people to bully! I also agree with you about handling them as well (and there's tons of truth to what Mr. Pennington says, too. For some (esp. in the hard-labor fields in which I have worked all my life), the mere threat an ass-beatin' is the only language they understand!)
Sometimes a good foreknuckle thump on the breastbone will activate their observing ego and make them behave.
"Take away their power by not responding". Exactly! I used to be a bully magnet but not anymore. lol
Greenhill, you could never be a bully! Social organizer, I can buy that... :-)