Dealing with People Who Are Never at Fault

I am sure you have run across the type of person who is never at fault, or you may even BE that person, and not even realize it. I have two of them in my family alone, and no one can understand how they themselves can not see the problem is them.

These two close family members are completely an utterly blind to the fact that they are the ones that need to change, or realize they are at fault. I will give you various examples.

One has moved about four times, each time they have moved, they have made complete and total enemies in their neighborhood and neighbors. Yet they are not the problem, it is always someone else! Strange, everyone got along before that family member moved there, and I am sure after the have moved out, there was peace. Articles and blog entries written pertaining to this person, have gone totally blind sided, with comments left expressing how they knew someone like that, yes, themselves, but they were actually speaking of someone else! This individual has fought with their own siblings, and now their own children, but the problem is once again not their fault, it couldn't possibly be, after all, they are perfect. You would think if out of three siblings they can only get along with one, that perhaps they are the problem, but this thought has yet to occur to them.

The other family member that thinks they are perfect has caused family fights at such places as funerals, and I mean fights not arguments. This family member like the other has no link to the brain before their tongue speaks. They are beyond speaking their mind, to the point they have both made people cry right in front of them by their hurtful words. This one has caused his own son to time, and time again; leave the house to stay at a hotel when visiting.

Always when confronted with the fact that the problem just might possibly be them, and no one else, they make an excuse or twist what really happened to be something totally unrelated. Even when presented with the evidence of their mistake, they do not apologize for their error. For example leaving out the word "made" in an email sentence, just so it starts an argument, no, they would never make a mistake like that. Why you ask, because they are never at fault. Everyone, and I do mean everyone, can see that they are the problem, and though loved ones may constantly try to open their eyes, there is no way of ever doing so. Trouble follows wherever they go, because the trouble is indeed THEM.

Dealing with these types of people is a complete pain. In order to keep the peace with these types of cases, you have to bend over backwards to make sure you don't miss a word when reading an email, or say something to upset them. It would be easier to simply ignore them all together, as you would not ever have to worry about the arguing, but sadly, when it is family you have no choice. You are forced into dealing with them, perhaps day in and day out for some. In which case, you have my deepest and sincerest heart felt sympathy. I know it isn't easy and doesn't get any easier over time. The older these people get the worse they become, because they become arrogant.

My advice, give up ever opening their eyes, for they will never see the error of their ways. We have tried for over 50 years. The only thing you can do is ignore every attempt they make at starting a fight with you, and when you prove them wrong to avoid a fight, do not expect an apology, for they are perfect. If indeed you get one, you can be sure you witnessed a miracle, and God working in that person's life. For no matter what you do, and what you say, it will be twisted and taken the wrong way. These types of people live in their own world. Just like, I am sure if one of them reads this, it could not possibly be about them, or maybe it is, and it is still wrong because... they are never at fault. All the problems in their life, they blame on someone else.

I would recommend reading my other article titled "How to keep the peace with impossible people", as that method of behavior has served me well in dealing with people who are never at fault. No one is perfect, but people who are never wrong, and never at fault, in essence, proclaim to be Christ. As Christ is the only perfect being. Therefore, this line of behavior is a sin, pride. And pride is the sin in which all others arise.