Dealing with Personality Conflicts Among Co-Workers

Are you not getting along with your co-workers? Here are a few tips for handling certain conflicts in personality. First the all time awful arrogance (or putting others down to build oneself up or to look good). One thing you do not wan to do with an arrogant person is to confront them. The best things you can do with them is just have patience and self-control and try to avoid them as much as possible.

"One-upmanship" and posturing are other things you may have to deal with in the workplace. These are the persons who are always the best at what they do (in their minds only). They will build themselves up to make themselves look better than they really are. They try to take credit for other's ideas et cetera. In this case you have two choices, either find a new job or focus on making yourself better for real. Strive to be your best but remembering to be better first.

Oh the wonderful short-fuses and irritability are so much fun to deal with. These people are harder to deal with but it can be done. Simply keep your cool and talk to them first. But please do not take it out on everyone around you. In some cases, going to a manager may be the only thing to do. If the person refuses to change and is always lashing out at others and you even after you have talked to them, take it up with the manager. This may be your only option.

Now for that wonderful fakeness and putting on glory attitude...There is nothing worse than someone who acts like your friend and then runs you down behind your back. Or when they are in everyone else's view, they are oh so goody goody, then they will turn on any and everyone when behind closed doors. Dealing with these people is not fun at all. It is good to have a good working relationship and even friendship with co-workers. Here you will want to deal with them with "kid's gloves". Be cautious what you say to them, but gently confront them about the situation. If they really are your friend, they will listen to you and try to make a change. If they do not, the only other thing you can do is just try to ignore them.

Everyone is a procrastinator at some point and time. It is always "I will do it tomorrow." That may be alright outside of work, but when you are at work it is not the right thing to do. If someone else is trying to meet a deadline and waiting on you to do your part, then putting it off is not an option. Now these people have to be dealt with firmly. Make sure you let them know that without their contribution the project will not be done on time, and that is not an option. If they still tend to take their time and lag around, take it up with the manager. Your getting in trouble is not worth their procrastination.

The worst thing that can happen at a workplace is sabotage of others work. It is horrible to think that someone would destroy one's work just to get their way. But it happens. A lot of times they can set it up to make you look guilty and proving otherwise can be difficult. Now at times you cannot even prove who really did it, thus you get the blame anyway. If you do know who did it or is doing it, you must try to catch them in the act. This is sometimes hard to do, but can be done. Plant something in plain view that they may like to sabotage and then have the manager or others watch it and them for you. Having eye witnesses can make all of the difference in the world.

Then there are those who turn green with envy anytime anyone else gets a promotion or raise et cetera. These people just have to be left alone unless it gets really bad and out of control. Simply go about your own business and do your own thing and your best and just stay away from them. If they are going to act like a spoiled child, they do not deserve your time or attention. Besides, confronting them may make it worse.

And last but not least let us deal with all of those cynical people out there. Oh my, where to begin...these people question everything that goes on in the workplace. They put down everyone else's ideas. They just basically put down anything that is not their idea. These people can be so very annoying and can put a damper on communication in the workplace. A lot of people begin to avoid cynics even if they need their opinion. This can really hinder a job. Therefore, talk to them about this. If that does not work, confront the manager with the situation and see what they say or can do.

A workplace does not have to be a place of discomfort or agony as long as everyone gets along.

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www.wate.com/global/story.asp?S=10236257