Dealing with a Teenager's Attitude

They grow up so fast! Sometimes, well most of the time, I feel like I am stepping on eggshells when talking to my teenager. Whether it's simply asking her to help around the house, or trying to relate all her new problem she faces as she grows up. One thing I've noticed is that she usually has more of an attitude when something is bothering her. Try asking your teen if something's the matter and if you could help. The answer will most likely be no, because they don't feel comfortable opening up to you. This is a common reaction, which can only be helped by understanding the situation they're in (puberty). Just let them know now and again that you'll always be there for them, and eventually they will come to you with their problems.

In the mean time, you can use leverage such as allowance to keep them from acting up. We have a pretty simple little system. Earning allowance includes getting to bed on time, doing small chores around the house when it is needed, and maintaining a good attitude. Each time they talk back make sure to give them a warning first. Then if after that warning their attitude remains, you could deduct a dollar or so from that week's allowance. It saves you time and money!

They may storm off, and yell the oh-so predictable "I hate you!" The main problem a lot of parents have after something like this is they can't seem to follow through on the punishment they've given. When this happens, it just reiterates to teens that they have you under their thumbs. Show them who's boss or they will never take you seriously. Mind you when I say "show them who's boss" that doesn't even mean you have to even yell. Just sit them down and let them know you mean business.