Dear Sophie - is it Ok to Have a Male Friend when it Isn't My Husband?

Is it okay to be in a marriage and have a male friend as a good friend but not let your husband know about it?

I think it's over

Dear I think it's over,

I am going to answer your question based on my Christianity (beliefs).

You should not hide anything from your husband. If you do, that is an automatic admission that something more than friendship is going on. It never looks good when you're married to have a friend of the opposite sex that you always hang out with. If you can't include this friendship with your spouse, then it sends wrong signals, not just to your spouse but to others who see you with this "friend". It is ok to have friends of the opposite sex but always remember the power of perception. You open yourself up to temptation that wouldn't otherwise be there. I know most friendships start out as just that but friends discuss personal things with each other and that grows a special bond that could lead to feelings beyond an autonomous friendship. I hope this helps.

Sophie