Deciding Whether to Have Sex Before Marriage

The impulse is really strong: It's called the sexual desire, and it is even stronger when you've found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. But there are valid reasons to wait to love on this person only when you are finally married. They are really, really valid reasons:

If you want your marriage mate to have self-control later, DON'T DO IT

You and your mate are only displaying a total lack of self-control right now when you go ahead and engage in sexual activity. Yes, the impulse is strong but it is not uncontrollable. When you give in to such a precious act that is made for marriage, you are showing no self-control . . .

And what that means is that when you are married, you are more prone to do it again. If you didn't have self control to wait for your marriage mate, you won't have it if you run across someone in the future that you are attracted to. That means in your heart, too. That's right: you can commit sexual adultery with someone in your heart, too.

Do you really want to marry someone who could do that to you sometime later in your marriage? Well, how can you expect anything better if they didn't display that type of self-control when it came to YOU?

If you want your marriage mate to respect you later, DON'T DO IT

The truth is, you lose respect for someone who has no self-control and who didn't have enough respect for you to wait for you. Even if it is not said or showed in the beginning, years down the line it will come out. How much better to reserve yourself as a clean gift to the one you love and have them hold on to that through the years!

If you want a clean conscience forever, DON'T DO IT

Even if it doesn't show itself immediately, down the road your act will wear on your conscience. Why? Because it was built into us to only have sexual intercourse within the marital arrangement . . . and when we defy that, we pay in more ways than one. It's painful, for both you and your mate.

If you really want to make your wedding night special, DON'T DO IT

There is something SO special about that night! After all, why is a wedding white? It's symbolic of virginity, purity - of giving yourselves fresh to one another. That night is a new experience, for the first time. Nothing could replace it, and if you have intercourse before this night then this night is not special at all!

If you want to avoid heartache, DON'T DO IT

Keeping all the aforementioned items in mind, it only causes both of you heartache when you give into the urge. You could also possibly get pregnant before you are even married, and then your child will be scarred for life when he does the math and sees that his birthdate and your wedding date don't match up!

If you want to prove to yourself that you're worth it, DON'T DO IT

You're lowering your own self-worth when you give into the act. Are you worth waiting for? Then prove it! If your potential marriage mate can't wait that short while for you, then they are not worthy of you.