Difficult Men!

by Dee - Love Solutions

Hi this is Dee with Love Solutions. I want to talk about difficult men. Do you have one? Well understand difficult men have many different types of bad behaviors that you have to deal with. So, yours may have one or two or some may have a man who goes to the extremes that has some of the worst bad behaviors and understanding that you're not ever going to change these bad behaviors. Only he can do that by building his self-esteem because that is where his problem lies is within his own self-esteem and own low self-worth. Both of those are extremely low.

There are two separate things with men. Men can have a little bit of low self-esteem, have a few insecurities, but not be sabotaging because he has low self-worth. The self-worth is something that is a big issue with men when it's low because they will sabotage any type of positive happy relationship, anything positive in their life they will sabotage if it's that low. But if it's based around relationships, they will sabotage the relationships. The once that are good, they will come in and be destructive for, you know, they have a great person in their life, they go out and cheat and intentionally get caught because they're sabotaging the relationship.

So, the issues that you have to deal with can be as much as him degrading you, as him picking fights with you, as him shutting down, to him having a drinking problem, to him being a habitual cheater. Those are variety of things that you can associate with low self-esteem. So, when you start to look at your person that you're dealing with and start to assess some other things, start to look at does he ever say, "Or you deserve someone better than me!" Does he ever do any of the bad behaviors as cheating, sabotaging things, sabotaging an evening out even, you know making some lame excuse of why he can't go and can't be there.

When these things are happening, you first have to look at is this, his low self-worth and low self-esteem talking or is this something else, most of the time it has to do with his self-esteem and his self-worth. So, you have to make a commitment to going down the path with this man. You are not ever going to change him. He can only change himself by building his self-esteem and building his self-worth. Until that happens, you won't see the behaviors go away. You can't do much to help him build his self-esteem and build his self-worth but give him the space and time to build it.

So, when you are faced with the possibility of a difficult man, someone like me who is a coach can come in and help you navigate through this relationship so it doesn't fall apart. What happens is if there is low self-esteem and low self-worth on his part, he may be hypersensitive, so what you say and what you do are so critical that you will either make this move forward in the direction that you wanted to go or you will destroy the relationship. So don't try to handle a difficult man on your own without getting some advice. They're very difficult to deal with that's the reason they're called a difficult man.

So, I can come in and help you with that as a relationship coach and if you want to help with that. I am more than happy to help you with any of your relationship issues. Please also check out my blog page which is http://www.lovesolutionsbydee.blogspot.com There is a wealth of information there. There is also an opt in so you can get a free action plan to help you with your difficult man. I am here to help you and bring your relationship to a new level of relationship bliss.

So please make sure that you are not in a relationship with a difficult man and not getting what you need out of it for your own satisfaction. You can learn to navigate it and that's what I teach, it's how to navigate and how to deal with this. So you keep the relationship moving forward and allow him the ability for him to go out and actually build his self-esteem and build his self-worth and you will watch that the bad behaviors that you get start to dissipate. Some of them may not completely go away but you get to be the smart partner that knows how to deal with them and how to navigate them and keeps them out of the relationship.

So thanks for joining me. I hope this is helpful. I would be more than happy to help you with any of your relationship troubles and whether that's reconciling or whether that is simply having a great relationship and finding your own relationship bliss.

Please contact me through my website www.lovesolutionsbydee.blogspot.com.