Discovering What You Really Want in Life

I used to have four dogs. Two big, and two small. Fortunately the fenced in yard was big enough to hold them all...

Except for the two small ones.

They just kept digging under the fence and escaping out into the wilderness. They would run in a haphazard, almost random fashion.. going from house to house, stirring up trouble and aggravating other unliberated canines.

I would guess that you, by reading this article, have already "dug under the fence."

You've gone beyond the limits of your mind that have been imposed on most of us since birth. You've more or less managed to open yourself up to more possibility, opportunities, and, of course, more money and success.

And that is definitely a good thing.

But too many times the people who escape from the tightly perimetered "yard" make the mistake of bandying about in an overly excited, careless manner.

Like my dogs, instead of jumping from house to house, many folks jump from idea to idea, opportunity to opportunity, desire to desire.

Big mistake.

When you set out on a course, you must stay on it unless it turns out to be the wrong one.

How do you tell if it's the wrong one?

Many different signs: You don't like it, it causes stress and tension, it's immoral, it's boring you, it was based on wrong motives.. just to name a few.

If you're on it, then you need to get off and find a better one.

Now some of you are thinking, "I've done that, and that's why I keep jumping from one thing to the next."

And you'd be right.

So how do you stop this and find a course that you really like and will want to stick with?

First we have to understand the word "want." There are two ways people define "want."

One is what we think we should want. The other is what we truly do want.

When it comes to things we think we are "supposed" to want, there is usually some apprehension, stress, or resistance to it.

For example, if you think that you're "supposed" to want to eat healthy foods, chances are you will resist at every turn the opportunity to eat nutritious nuts and meats and veggies.

Or say that you think you "should" want to be poor, that there's something wrong with wanting to be anything but poor. You will have a life filled with constant stress over not having what you really want.

So how do you separate the two? How do you find what you really want, not just what you have been hypnotized into thinking you want?

Easy.

The first step is to form a very clear definition of your desire. Just start with one specific thing.

If you want $1000 bucks, say "I want $1000 bucks"
If you want to stop smoking, say "I want to be satisfied without cigarettes"
If You want a better job, say "I want a job that is ____________"

It's critical that you be specific and state what you want in terms of the positive.

If you say, "I want NOT to drink alcohol," then that puts the focus on your drinking.. and what you focus on expands.

Instead say "I want to be free from any addiction to alcohol" or something else that puts the focus on what you WANT, not what you don't want.

Now, once you've decided on your statement, say it to yourself and ask, "Do I think this is bull??"

Then ask yourself if you feel any stress, apprehension, or any feelings of being overwhelmed.

If you do, then either it is not what you really want, OR you don't believe you can have it.

Now ask yourself, "Is it believable?"

If you've felt good about your statement up to this point, chances are that it is what you really want, you just lack the belief that you can have it. But it is what you truly want.

If you have not felt 100% comfortable with your statement, and think it's ridiculous or unbelievable, then you definitely do not truly want it.

Now, after having done all that, notice something..

While doing this exercise, you placed yourself into a hypnotic state where you were temporarily freed from what others tell you that you "should" want, and what you really DO want.

Your subconscious was allowed to speak freely and tell you, in no uncertain terms, whether your statement of desire was genuine or contrived.

Now try this for everything you think you want.

You'll be amazed at what you learn about yourself.