Divorce, Adultery, Remarriage

Marriage is not sacred anymore in the christian circle. We are acting like the world. We divorce our spouses on the fact that, "they have changed", "they committed adultery", " we are not in love anymore". etc...and forgot that we made a covenant not only with our spouses but with God. Read Proverbs chapter 2 that it says someone who leaves his wife ( or husband) just forgets the covenant. We come up with all kinds of excuses how once we are divorced the covenant is broken, etc. etc. We have pastors encouraging us to "move on" once our spouses left us. to whom I say , who are you pastor or anyone else to tell someone to move on when you are not in their shoes? How can one move on knowing her husband is sleeping with another woman, the kids are passed back and forth, and the covenant has been forgotton? " Well, my spouse is abusive", " mine is crazy", " mine used drugs"....SO WHAT!!!???? It all sums up in one word : your spouse is a sinner!

What about you? Are you perfect? .....please think before you answer that question. And if you answered that you are too, then who the heck are you to break up your marriage, leave your spouse, and punish your children not to grow up with both parents and yet claim to be a believer in Jesus? You decide for them and then some of you even go to church and pretend that everything is ok. No, it is NOT ok. God doesn't bless your new relationship. He is not blessing disobedience. Isnt the right thing to do if you admit you did wrong, too to ask your spouse to forgive you for not being like Christ? Isn't it right to ask God to forgive you and teach you how to love? When one admits his or her faults shouldnt he or she be humbled and say , "Honey, I was wrong, too. I havent been lovign you liek God wanted me to and I need to repent before God and you and my children and show you different?" But, not we think we will start over with someone else and have another so called "wife" or "husband". Who cares that you are in love with the new person? Is that how a true husband or wife should talk? And if you are in so called "love" ( aka lust), REPENT and ask God to get those feelings out of your heart and ask your spouse and people to forgive you and even the person you have feelings for to forgive you for keeping them in sin with you and therefore having the same destiny as you. How many one-flesh relationships can one have? Jesus said that what God put together, let not man put asunder. To put asunder means to diminish, to separate....that means God is saying, " Quit looking at these two married people as two...they are one". That's why once you married for the first time, your first spouse that is, you cannot be made two anymore..it is a mistery just like Christ and the church. I do not care about the excuses we have. If your spouse is abusive, pray! If he or she uses drugs, pray! If they are boring, pray! And how about you change first and show them love. Use of drugs, abuse, anger, alcoholism, etc. are just symptoms of what really is wrong: relationship with God. Also, sometimes anger is a sign that something you are doing it hurts them. Stop beind Adam and Eve that blamed each other and the devil, but forgot to look at themsleves.

How about loving your spouse to find out what exactly is that bothers them and quit bossing them around and love them for who they are..isnt that why you married them in the first place? Did you marry them to change them? You used to love them once..everything is possible with God. You want God to forgive you, yet you cannot forgive and love your spouse and you trash them everywhere you go to make yourself look good. God sees the truth though. Let them be who God made them.

But I do not want to go on anymore because there are more qualified people who can tell you the truth . Please I know from experience that how strong a bond between two people can be , but if you are in adultery whouldn't you rather live alone and obeying God than in sin? And what about trusting God? Pray for your spouse. " Well, they do not want to change". If they are captives of sin, of satan, then they have no will. Their will have been taken captive. You can set them free through your prayers. You are all they have if not they are lost forevr and doomed to hell. "God is not so cruel". I beg to differ.Yes, God is love, but also God killed children in the Old Covenant and in the new covenant He killed Ananias and Saphira. God is holy. Yes, He is merciful and that's why we are alive. Don't you realize that only because of Jesus you are not punished for your sin, adultery, etc.?..In the Old Testament we would be dead for our adulterous relationships.

Anyway, here some websites...if you really care about God and love Him to know the truth..please just open your heart to believe different and learn about marriage and divorce,etc.

God has the power to set you free. Choose God. Yes, maybe you and your spouse have a hard time, but that is not a reason for you to live in adultery. Do you care more about what people say, than Jesus? If you can't live with your spouse then the only option you have is be alone...as Paul says

.www.rejoiceministries.org

www.cadz.net