Divorce and Children

Divorce is hard enough on the two people getting the divorce but when you have kids it becomes even harder and sometimes it's hard enough thinking about your own troubles with the divorce than it becomes more difficult to remember that your kids are hurting and that they are very confused.

Divorce is a painful process no matter how you cut it even if you both parties decide that the divorce is best for everyone. Each child is very different and they all look at the world differently. When it comes to divorce and a child, as a parent you must realize that age plays a huge part in how a child will act toward it.

Children will all have many emotions toward the divorce and most will want to believe it is just some sort of nightmare and they will wake up at any moment. They never could picture their parents not together and now that it is happening it seems very unreal.

Here are some ways your children may act during a divorce, these will all vary with different age groups:

Some children may start to act better changing their behavior in hopes that it will change their parent's minds about divorce.

Children my start to pretend to be sick, again hoping their "illness" will change their parents minds.

Anger becomes a huge issue and a lot of children no matter the age group are unsure where to put that. They may start to withdraw from friends and family.

Emotions will be escalated, one minute they may life and the very next cry.

Your child may show signs that they believe they are responsible for the divorce therefore taking a lot of guilt they should never have to feel.

Some children start to feel as though they have been abandoned, even if their mother and father are still in their lives full time.

Their behavior could start to get worse and they may start to act out which will bring the parents closer together in order to get them to talk which children believe might spark something.

Children are smarter than we think that they are sometimes and the things that they see on a daily basis is teaching them how to act, what to say and what they should be life when they grow up. Even though we believe that our children are not watching the things we do we find out days later when they imitate us that they were watching indeed. From infants to high school children divorce makes an impact.