Divorce is Too Easy These Days

How is it that we can marry someone and say it is for the rest of our lives and when we are faced with hard times, we can walk away so easily? What ever happened to honoring our vows? You know, to love, honor, and cherish. For richer, or poorer, in sickness and health, through good times and bad as long as we both shall live. Why do so many people bail out when times get tough?

Marriage is not like dating. When you are dating someone, you have the option of walking away. You have not made that long term commitment that comes with being married. If you are only dating, you are still searching for the person you want to spend your life with.

Once you marry that special someone, you have made that life-long commitment. There is no longer the option of walking away when times get tough. Once you're married, you are supposed to support one another, and learn to compromise. You are no longer in this life alone. You have chosen a partner to share your life with. Everything you do effects your partner, as well as everything you don't do.

With that said, why don't people take marriage as seriously as it is intended? Many years ago, divorce was not acceptable. If you got married, that was that. There was no walking away. You supported your spouse, you stood beside them, and you stayed there. You could not seek a divorce for any reason as you can today. Today, if a couple simply doesn't agree, they can divorce for irreconcilable differences. If one hurts the other's feelings, they can divorce for mental and emotional cruelty. These issues can be severe enough for divorce at times, but all too often, they are used when unnecessary.

There are times when I agree with divorce. Adultery, spousal abuse, or for the benefit of a child involved. Most other reasons are things that can be worked through. I believe that before a divorce is granted, both parties should have to write down their reasons for divorce. Then, I think that those reasons should be reviewed by a professional, and a determination made as to whether there truly are grounds for divorce.

All too often, couples who really do love each other, divorce simply because times have gotten hard and they are unsure of what to do. If there were steps in place that must be taken before a couple could be granted a divorce, many marriages could be saved. I know there is counseling that couples can seek, but it is not a necessary step. It is optional. There are no requirements in place that a couple seeking divorce is required to take. Even some instances of adultery can be overcome if the couple really loves each other. Required, legal steps could help some couples reconnect, and remember why the fell in love to begin with. Thus, save their marriage.

Marriage is a sacred thing. We all need to remember that. As a society, we should all take marriage more seriously. Once married, we should take every step that is possible to make the marriage work. We need to stand by our spouses, and honor the vows we took.
We need to remember what marriage really is and what it is about before we take that step.