Do You Know Who You Are?
When you are a wife society expects you to live and breathe your husband's life. Suddenly your not (insert your name here) anymore, you are (insert husbands name here)'s wife. Your own identity gets lost in translation when you say I do. Your hopes and dream fade into the night because you are supporting his. You dress to the nines to go to his business events when you would rather be curled up on the couch in your robe, drinking a cup of tea.
When you have children, you are expected to be the perfect soccer mom. You are supposed to drive a mini van to shuttle the kids from event to event. The perfect soccer mom sits through every game, every musical recital, and every band concert that their kids perform in. The perfect soccer mom bakes homemade cookies for every fundraising event and is the first in line to organize and event. There is not a moment in your life that is unscheduled. That 2-hour bath you were hoping for becomes a 10-minute shower because the kids want to go here or there. Being the perfect mom that you are, you forgo the guilty pleasures you had in mind for yourself to keep the kids happy.
These are just a few ways that we loose ourselves in the world. Just a few ways that who we are has been defined by what we do or what we do not do. Is this who you are? Is this who you want to be? Have you given up your hopes and dreams to please someone else? Have you let go of your passion in life to pursue something that somebody else thinks is a good idea?
Many of the choices we have made in life are not because it is something we want to do but because something else drives us to do it. The careers we choose are not chosen because it is what we want to do, they are chosen because it is what is expected of us or because they make more money. A perfect example is my chiropractor. He went to school to be a physician because that is what his dad wanted. After his dad passed away, he went back to school to be a chiropractor.
Do you know who you are or are you living someone else's dream?
Published by Ryanick Paige
Ryanick has enjoyed writing for over 5 years. She has written about many subjects with her favorite being Television, Automotive and Reviews. She is a Featured Contributor in the Television Category. View profile
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19 Comments
Post a CommentGreat article! It is so hard to keep a personal identity with so many other being forced on you. If you look in my interests it says alone time. This is my way of making sure I take care of myself too. It helps to stay connected to yourself and take care of some of your wants and needs. As little as 30 minutes a week will work, but don't be afraid to take more, remember, you're worth it!!
Thought provoking. Great article
I read somewhere, If your life is hard- You are living someone else's.
Interesting article and makes one think. You did an excellent job on this!
The question is how do you change and become the person you want before it is to late.
lol, great title, good article too. :) Sheri
Ah, this rings close to home
Great article. I'm not married or have kids yet, so I can't relate, but I won't compromise who I am for someone else,
This is an excellent article. It's so very true. We have this picture of what will be like, but once it comes to it, sometimes it is quite different from what we had planned out.
So very true! Thanks.