Do You Know Where Your Man's Love Switches Are?

It's nice to hear those three little words on a regular basis. That's true whether you're a man or a woman. Words are not enough, however, if you really and truly want to make your partner feel loved. And if you truly love your partner, chances are, you need to show him you love him from time to time. But what if he doesn't respond to these overtures of love? Feeling your time and effort to demonstrate your affection is not appreciated can bring a girl down, that's for sure, but it's possible he simply doesn't know how to respond because you're not doing the right thing.

What you have to do is learn where his love switches are.

Don't worry. This isn't about to devolve into something kinky. That's a later article. Think switches as in light switches. Each of us has different things that flip our love switches, or that make us feel really and truly cherished. For some, it's flowers. For some, it's lots of physical contact and holding. For others, it's conversation. What you need to do is find out what really and truly makes your man feel cared for, and do those things. Chances are, when you're talking about a guy, it's going to be cooking him his favorite meal or bringing him a nice drink when he comes home. Many women are unwilling to "wait on" their men, but if it makes him feel loved, then why not? Don't be afraid to spoil him a little bit.

If he's got a group of guys coming over to watch a game, make sure they have their favorite snacks. If he has a stressful job (and who hasn't?) then why not give him a massage when he's tense? Of course, his favorite sexual activities are another way to show you care. See, while a lot of women's switches are flipped with things like flowers and symbolic expressions of love, men tend to be a little more physical in their needs. Physically bring or prepare them things to eat and drink. Touch them in the ways they like to be touched. And, of course, listen to them. Everyone likes to be listened to.

You can't assume, of course. If you don't know what makes your man feel cared for, then ask him. Then once you find out, if you still feel like doing something girly like putting a ribbon and a love note around the six-pack of his favorite beer you've bought for him, he will probably be touched. In a manly kind of way.