Do like You Wanna

I have been accused of 'doing whatever I want to do' in the past, which I thought was a pretty curious thing. First, as a single person, I was under the impression that I was not required to consult with others before choosing a course of action. Now, in some things I learned that having counselors or experts to assist me would have been helpful.

I came though to understand that 'doing what I want' actually meant that I wasn't doing what that person wanted me to do. Interestingly enough, I never truly caught on to that concept until recently. As the song goes, 'Some of them want to use you....' I began finding that a few so-called friends thought (HA!) that I was at their disposal, that my life was somehow intertwined with theirs, that I would be unable to live without them.

In my experience, Sagittarian women are able to put up with a lot. We bear a lot. We love a lot, but there are breaking points. Moments where all the foolishness piled up outweighs the value of friendships or relationships, and the person who thinks they are central to our lives discovers the truth that they were merely an accessory, a pastime, a whim.

Usually, when I have to cut these people off, I am angry and disappointed in myself for having doubted my own judgment and believed the facade the person put on. But as much as I may have been hurt by any of these dissolved associations. I can admit that today I relish the separation. How wonderful to now have a band of friends who are truly that--friends. No petty pretending or resentful reproach.

I remember Rev. Styles at First Baptist Church on Apple Street in Burlington, NC once preaching a sermon entitled, 'Multiplication by Subtraction.' In the sermon, he illustrated that sometimes God takes things from us to give us something better. If we can only learn to let go of the thing, we think, we have to have.

I thank God for letting go. I should caution you though that sometimes when you let go the other person will refuse to and that sometimes other people will question how or why you and so-and-so no longer associate, but if you know you have blessings in store, you don't want to hang on to people who are blocking those blessings.

Honestly, you can do like you wanna, but why continue in dysfunction or misery when you can be happy and free? The reality is that everyone cannot go where you're headed, and some of us are stuck because we are being held back by unfruitful relationships. Don't be afraid to be free. It's better than the alternative.