Do You Need to Work on Your Charisma?

Greg Wendland
Charisma is a wonderful thing when it comes to attracting women. It is defined as a special magnetic charm or appeal. The fact is, that is exactly what guys are trying to achieve when the enter the dating scene. Although it is not a competition, they want to be better and stand out more in a woman's eyes. So, the question is, how do you go about getting this magnetic charm?

Firstly, Charisma Starts with the Way a Man Carries Himself

Looking like you are on top of the world, confident, and secure will go a long way to adding to your charisma factor. Stand up, and keep your head up. Have you ever seen someone walking down the street with their head hanging, never lifting it up? Chances are you immediately had the feeling he was feeling dejected in some way. This is what women see in men, as well. Holding your head up as you walk shows confidence. You are able to look a person in the eye, which creates a personal connection immediately. Looking like you can face any obstacle with confidence is a very attractive feature.

It's all in the Smile, Baby

Think about this. When you are talking on the phone and you are smiling, the other person knows that. A simple smile will change your whole outlook, or rather, the way someone is looking at you. It signals self-esteem and gives the impression that you are approachable. Dating should be fun, so why look serious. As a word of caution, if you were going to spend a lot of time smiling, it would be nice if you made friends with your local dentist. The power of a smile will be destroyed by showing unattended teeth.

Mind Your Manners

Women are sensitive to people who are offended. Caring about someone else's feelings will show that you care about yourself. Think about what you are saying. Even if that joke you heard at the office about a retarded person was funny, your girl may know a child with autism or some other disorder and be especially offended by that. Another quick tip is to not use the word retarded. Once, it may have been acceptable, but no longer. It is deemed offensive.

Do Not Absorb Yourself - Absorb Her

Ask a woman about her life, show some interest. Part of charisma is the fact that you are not concerned with what you have to say to people, but more what they have to say to you. If you talk about yourself too much, she will notice. She wants to be the one to talk.

Everything in its Season

Be a patient man. If you are looking nervous and rushing around as if there are a million things to do before the stroke of midnight, then women will watch you turn into a pumpkin. Look in control and decisive. This makes everyone around you feel more comfortable. Stress comes from indecision, so if you are calm, cool, and collect then you are stress free in her eyes.

Charisma is the "It Factor". This is what sets you apart from the other men. You are not the same you are unique. Women are drawn to that. They have seen the same old routine, once they spot something that seems different, they will want to inquire further. These steps may take some effort on your part, but when done with sincerity the result will be amazing.

Published by Greg Wendland

Born in Michigan, Greg has lived in several states and abroad. He is a self-proclaimed 'Student of Human Nature'. He enjoys working as a Freelance Writer as well as owning and operating a computer repair bu...  View profile

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  • Angela Atkinson10/10/2008

    Great job at figuring out what women want. Not many men understand it so well. :)

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