Does Jealousy Mean that He or She Loves You?

If you have grown up in an abusive home it is very likely that jealousy was common in your household. Children who have grown up in families where there was domestic violence often get jealousy confused with love. Many little girls grow up to be women that believe that if their boyfriends are possessive and jealous it is because they love them so much that they can't control their passion. They believe that their boyfriends or husbands become violent and abuse them because of their deep love for them.

Many times men, who appear very romantic that wine and dine you, bring you flowers and shower you with love and affection, have a hidden agenda. They may do all the right things, but their motives may be to seduce you more for the thrill of it. They want to conquer you. Not all romantic men are suspect, but be very careful about getting swept off your feet. Sometimes these are the kind of men that are very jealous and controlling. They can also be addicted to the romance and hop from one relationship to another. They are jealous and suspicious because they are the ones that are actually untrustworthy.

If you begin a new relationship with a man or woman it is important to pay attention and see if they are jealous of you. If they are constantly questioning you about where you have been or where you are going, these are red flags.

If your partner says that you are flirting with someone, and you aren't, or wants to know why you are looking at someone too long, you may have a problem. It is important to check out what you are doing, but if you know you are innocent and you are constantly being put on the defensive, you want to think long and hard about continuing a relationship with someone who is excessively jealous.

It may feel flattering at first to think that someone loves you so much that they are jealous but the flattery will wear off really fast if they become obsessed with it. If you begin to worry about your partner's jealousy talk about it to an objective friend or consult professional. Jealousy can be dangerous. It is a very powerful emotion. Men and women who have low self-esteem and are very insecure can be very dangerous if it is combined with jealousy.

Never under any circumstances accept physical abuse or intimidation. This applies to men as well as women. A jealous woman can be as dangerous as a jealous man.

　

http://www.bbc.co.uk/relationships/couples/heartaches_jealousy.shtml