Does Your Sexual Orientation Matter When Raising Your Child?

I read an article today that completely enraged me. Although, I do agree with the main idea of the article, I strongly disagree with the explanation. First of all, this article was about people needing to take a test before having children. In a way I feel that is a great idea. For the most part because many "parents" lack the common sense to raise a child. By common sense I mean, they let their children run wild without guidance and discipline. It seems to me that many parents loose interest in their children's everyday activities and do not try to shape their children into being responsible adults by teaching them morals, manners and respect for themselves as well as others.

The main point I got from the article I read was about drug using and or bisexuality. A point that was brought up in this other article was how traumatized a child would be if it had walked in on their parents with a third party having intimate relations. Well, as most of us can agree, we have all overheard our parents or walked in on them. As adults when we think about it, it grosses us out but were any of us traumatized? Not actually. Most parents do not try to flaunt their intimacy in front of their children, so how can it even be safe to assume a bisexual or homosexual will do other than that?

Sexual orientation should not be a factor when considering who is appropriate in raising a child. As long as the sexual preference of the adult is not pushed on the child. I am a firm believer in honesty with raising a child. I have a very good friend, her mother is a lesbian, and no she has not been traumatized by that. However, I do have some friends that were raised in a heterosexual household that are, well let's say less than happy with their childhood.

A child can be traumatized by many different things. Living in a home with a parent that is an alcoholic, drug user, has a terminal illness, and abusive, to name but a few. Does this only apply to one sexual preference? Absolutely not. For the growing trend that was mentioned about young mothers...

I was pregnant at 17 years old. I am an excellent mother, not to toot my own horn. I do the absolute best for my "illegitimate child" and will continue to do so until the Good Lord calls me Home. I feel sick to my stomach at the insinuation a teenager is incapable of properly raising a child. I do not suggest teenagers have children because it is not easy, but I applaud them for choosing life over death. As far as I am concerned there are just as many adult parents that harm their children in one way, shape or form as young parents.

I personally know of grown women that have walked out on their responsibilities and so far have not tried to come back. My god-son, for example, his mother ran off with a man just before he turned a year old. She is now in her 30's. She just was not fit to be a mother and made a conscience decision to leave him to be raised better than she could have done. Being a parent takes its toll on all. Every single day, new adventures, tears to wipe, knees to bandage etc. etc.

I feel the main reason for my outrage is the person that wrote the article doesn't have any children. It is hard to judge how one parent is when you have never been in the shoes yourself. Besides, who are we to judge, leave the judgment for the higher power. I personally do not feel that anyone that decides to become a parent goes in with the intent to ruin their child's life. Maybe instead of pointing a finger or name-calling you could step up and try to help a parent be a better parent. When you see a mother or father pulling their hair out because of the stress that a child can cause, offer to give them a brake for a little bit. Let them go outside for a few minutes to gather themselves. This can help out a lot. Or just give a shoulder to cry on or lend your ear for a few minutes.

Instead of pointing out the flaws in parenting attempt to do a part and put an end to it. Parents young and old, heterosexual, homosexual, and bisexual can raise a well rounded, responsible, and loving child. This has been proven. If you need further proof look around a bit. I am positive you will find a child raised by each of the preceding and prove it to yourself. As well as find an adult that has been raised by each of them also that isn't a "model citizen".